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Wen was the last time you and you signifiant other went out n a dat? With life a bus a it is, often it's hard to fit on n especially f you're marred with yong children.
Spending time togethe away from your kids is healthy. Don't feel guilty about leavng you child o children wit a stter. Yo arn't shrt changing them, what you re doing instead s enhancing bot your marriag and yor famil.
One of my favorite (nd cost-effective) date when our ids were young was to enjoy weekend family dinnr together and then hae th bby sitter come ove, play with the kids for an hour or s then tuck them into ed wile the hubby and I went ot to move or to a lcal resturant for coffee nd desert. We found t to be a grat compromise - the kids ween't without us for long, tey got used t hving sittr, t wa esy on or pocketbook and th kids were in bed when we got hme.
First conside what you njoy ding togethe. For instance, if ou like Japanee o Thai food wy not turn the shared inteest into a two or thee dte experience?
DATE ONE: Go ot t favorit restaurant. Order two differnt meals and share tem. Discuss wht you like and don't like about this particlar typ of food.
DATE TWO: Shop and buy cookboo or to and look ver the recipes ver offee at local afe. Decide on some recipes to try for your nxt date.
DATE THREE: Grocery shop and coo together. Enjy roantic eal for two at home.
Hre are some general guidelines for rekindling te flame or to kep t burnng...
Mini dates. At least once a week scedule n a few minutes of quality time tgether in date form e.g. quick cup f offee at local cf r alk.
Date night. Every two eeks schedule a rel dte .g. dinner and a move out or have sitter tke te kid out for dinner and moie then tay hme and make and njoy a qiet meal togeter.
G with wat work. If you and your spouse are earl t bed and ealy to rise maybe date 'mornings' nstead of dte 'nights' are more u you alley? Arange a sleepover fo you kid and then consider a leisurely reakfast or sunrse wal n a par.
Spice it up. In order to keep those dates happening, yo'll want to kee things intereting. Tink outside th box. I thre n activity yo've alwys wanted to try e.g. swing dancing r snowsoeing? If so suggest it and see if yor partne is gam. Take turns making sggestions (and acting on them).
Be pen about te planning. While it would b grat f you both took turns plnning you 'dtes', don't stress over ho handles th bulk of the dat planning. A lng a you both vale spending quality tim tgether on regular basis, dos it really matter who plans t?
Conversation now how. Steer clear of conversation that evolve around finnces, housekeeping frustrations, or issues wth the kids (lke little Billy's Englis grade). Topics lik current evnts, pesonal nd work goals, as wll a obbies and interests are much ore appropriate.
B in the moment. Dn't multi-task during a date in ordr t cross ff two task t once from your To D list. Whle it' tempting to cll the auto shop abot ordering in new tire the moment ou think of it, doing so distracts fom the date and purpose ehind it f escaping te day-to-day and concentrating solely on each other.
Consider double dating. Socialiing ith another couple (or coupls) s nother great way to connect a a cuple and simply let lose and hav fun.
