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Everyone has been there: one moment with the boy or girl of your dreams, the next moment, he or she is telling you to get lost and they never want to see you again. This situation can be heart wrenching and frustrating when you want nothing more than to get that special person to like you again. So here are a few tips for how to get your ex to like you again.
First, identify why the sudden shift in the first place. A couple of the most common reasons couples split up includes being too cold or emotionally distant, being too clingy or emotionally dependent, and of course, cheating.
The first scenario needs to be handled very differently than the other two. In this situation, the best thing to do is to talk to your significant other within the next day. But before you do, take time to actually think about how the breakup made you feel and be prepared to really open up to that special person. Start with the breakup, but if you can identify some event in your past that made you so distant and confess that as well, even better.
By opening up about the breakup, you are demonstrating to that other person you are willing to change to be with them. It also demonstrates the trust you have for that person; you are willing to open up to them for the first time. They will appreciate that you opened up for them.
For the second two situations, and most other breakups, the important thing to remember is to not pressure the other person. For these kinds of breakups, take a couple of days for the two of you to cool off. Then start out slow. First, admit mistakes made during the relationship. This does not mean be a doormat. Admit the mistakes you made, but identify the things you did right in the relationship. Whatever you do, do not turn the conversations into a blame game.
The second step is to attempt to rebuild a friendship with that other person. Do not try to jump into this. Take your time. Start with a text or two every couple of days. Then try to schedule some times to hang out, but never with just the two of you. Go out in a group of friends, but chose those friends carefully. Try to avoid inviting single friends your significant other would be attracted to. Also, avoid turning it into a couples' thing. You don't want to make your ex feel like they are being pressured to be a couple with you again. The best other people to hang out with are the current friends of your significant other.
While hanging out with these friends, do not focus on your significant other. Try spending time with the other people in the group. Most importantly, have fun. The purpose of doing this is to show that you are not dependent and you can be trusted. Do not expect this to resolve itself quickly. It takes time to heal wounds, but you will find that being with that special person makes it worth the working and waiting.
After you breakup, it might seem impossible that your ex will like you ever again. Guess what, they still like you, its just the relationship they hated. Check these tips out to shift the balance back to you.
