subject: Brains or Beauty [print this page] Brains or Beauty Brains or Beauty
It's a debate that has been discussed many times over the years. Do we look for an attractive woman to spend the days with us or do we look more into the intelligence of someone as a point of attraction?
With brains you get stimulating conversation; help with important decisions and most likely a more financially a stable background, which if you are living together is a valuable asset. But you also get the prospect of not being that attracted to your partner which is not fun. To maintain a healthy relationship you generally have to have a balance of both but which one is it we go for when looking for a woman. Brains or beauty.
Well most probably it is beauty; we are all guilty of being shallow at some point in our life. But it is just human nature to be attracted to someone who is physically attractive, it is no crime. We look into it too much at times and a glorified sensationalist media market only enhances our opinions. It is likely that we will not get to know people who we are not attracted to. Not when they are strangers anyway.
Secondly it is very rare that you can find brains and beauty in one package, and if you do, hold on to it. The beauty option also does not progress your intelligence like meeting someone intelligent can. If you go for someone intelligent they really can open your eyes to dozens of new opportunities and insights. They turn your mind to things that you did not before consider in life. This can be invigorating and inspiring and can bring you closer together.
But as this is so hard to get to know people who we do not find attractive, it turns us towards friends that we currently have. Friends that we share an intellectual understanding with can become attractive after some time. You can become attracted to their personality as opposed their looks, and it is a common occurrence for friends to get together.
After years of looking for love, friends can be thrust together when they are most vulnerable. It can be quite odd how these things work themselves out and it is important that you don't go pushing for this. You may always get with a friend that just so happens to be attractive. If this is the case then you get the best of both worlds and you should think yourself very lucky.
