subject: When a Spouse is Unfaithful, What Do You Do? A Guide to Dealing With Infidelity and How to Survive the Betrayal [print this page] When a Spouse is Unfaithful, What Do You Do? A Guide to Dealing With Infidelity and How to Survive the Betrayal
When your spouse is unfaithful, it leaves you with a hole in your heart. You then begin questioning everything that has ever happened in your relationship and you start blaming everything on yourself. This is something that you shouldn't have to do. It is hard to know what to do in a situation like this, but you need some help so you can deal with infidelity the right way.
People make mistakes and that is a fact. Sometimes when a spouse is unfaithful, it is a simple mistake and it never happens again. Other times, a person cheats for a number of actual reasons and this is when the marriage is doomed. Sometimes infidelity can be dealt with and other times it is better to let it go.
When a spouse is unfaithful and they show remorse and they are guilty and upset by their actions, that is a good sign that it won't happen again. When they come out and are honest to you about their actions, is are a good sign. This means that they feel bad for what they did, it only happened once and now they are ready to move forward and earn your trust again. When this is the case, then you can start to rebuild trust and open up communication in the relationship.
If your spouse was caught cheating or you heard about their infidelity from a friend who saw your spouse out with someone else, then this is a problem. This kind of cheater probably cheats quite often and you aren't the first person that they have had an affair on. Their insecurity levels are extremely low and this is why they cheat. This type of person cannot be changed and it is best to let them go. As hard as it is, this type of person will continue to cheat on you and deceive you. Don't be a fool and make the right choice.
No matter what scenario you are in, a cheating spouse is a tough thing to deal with. Sometimes the marriage can be repaired and the trust can be rebuilt but other times, it is best to say "no" and to go your separate way. Never blame yourself for infidelity because it is always based upon the other person and their thoughts and feelings.
Dealing with a cheating spouse can be difficult, but sometimes it is worth salvaging the marriage. It is up to you to decide how to deal with it and what actions you need to make.
