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Feelings of tenderness are distinctly different from feelings of sexual desire or love.
For both men and women, feelings of tenderness are first formed as an infant. Feelings of tenderness in infants are usually directed towards parents, but sometimes it can be another caretaker. These feelings arise from having basic needs fulfilled; feeding you when you're hungry, cleansing you when you're soiled, clothing you when you're cold, and comforting you when you're upset. As an adult, feelings of tenderness come about in the same way; when her basic needs are met. Being her provider and leader of the family, an excellent father to her children, and giving the emotional support she craves, will all stimulate feelings of tenderness in her.
Feelings of sexual desire also develop as an infant, but by a completely different mechanism. Sexual desire may or may not be present when she has feelings of tenderness. This confuses and frustrates many men, as they mistake her feelings of tenderness as a sign of sexual desire. Responding to her feelings of tenderness will not by itself stimulate her desire for sex.
Love is often confused with feelings of tenderness, but they are not the same thing. I define love as willing sacrifice for your partner. Love can be measured by what she has willingly given up in the past, and is willing to give up in the future. Her love is not measured by what has been provided for her. Her feelings of tenderness don't guarantee that she is in love, and love may be present without feelings of tenderness.
When she wants to cuddle, she is simply relaying that her basic needs have been provided for. It doesn't certify that she is in love, and has little to do with any desire for sex she may have. When she wants to cuddle, expressions of love and sexual desire may have to wait for another time. If all she ever wants to do is cuddle, sexual desire and love may be lacking in the relationship.
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