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In a recent article entitled "Need Disguised as Love" I make the point that people typically confuse love for one thing that's truly driven by need.
For instance, "the need to be needed", "the necessity to not be alone", "the necessity to be validated", and "the necessity to be taken care of" often pass themselves off as "I like you". In alternative words when 2 individuals enter into a relationship their motives for doing therefore are typically not genuinely motivated by feelings of love.
Currently I know that many of you will be upset by my saying that. If you're please don't trust me on it just recall the last time you experienced a failed relationship and why it failed. I suppose that nine times out of 10 it was because your partner "failed to satisfy your desires", correct?
So I rest my case!
So why is it that love plays such an insignificant role in relationships? Well that is a complex issue but let me try to explain.
Love, true love originates and is felt in the Heart of the individual through the presence there of what I decision the Human Life Force. It's related to feelings of joy, light heartedness, inner peace, contentment with life, a way of being care free, an deep inner knowledge and a child like angle towards life to name a few.
It's one thing that we have a tendency to are all born feeling however with time and age the Heart starts to close down. This shutting down happens each time we have a tendency to experience one thing that the Heart gets hurt by. Now by "hurt" I mean two different things.
On the one hand there's the common definition i.e. being hurt equals being disappointed when something that is desired does not come back to pass. This hurt, stored within the body, causes a depletion of Life Force from that body.
Now as a result of that feeling of passion equates, in my view one's life force, one's reason for being, one's core values, indeed what one values and provides which means and color to their life, when it is ignored it's like the individual being ignored.
When that individual "suffers" a series of such slights the Life Force that flows through the Heart, slowly starts to whither within the body. As it will the individual not solely becomes numb to the emotions that emerge from there i.e. love, joy unhappiness, light-weight heartedness, passion etc. they conjointly become numb to themselves i.e. who they extremely are.
This is often corresponding to saying that they stop "feeling themselves" and hence start to feel a deep sense of emptiness inside. This sense state, is related to such things as low self-worth, low self price, low self-worth, worry of being alone, inadequate, worry of not being loved and therefore on.
When this happens they become needing to reclaim a number of their self esteem, self price, self esteem, sense of security, love and therefore on. Rather than wanting for all this from among they "think" instead that it will be gotten from without. That is from someone else through a relationship.
This is often when their would like, which is very a want to reclaim and reintegrate the Life Force with the body, passes itself off as love and becomes the motivator for starting a relationship. In fact since the necessity can only be filled by the Life Force itself, the partner's ability to fill this need will continually fail.
Having said all of this, the vital purpose to be created is that for a relationship to achieve success, the Life Force of a personal must be sought first, should be reintegrated with the body, and the real person who is represented by that integration must be totally gift and alive first.
If you pursue this path then you'll not only know real love, you'll have success in relationship and life beyond your wildest dreams.
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