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We all know our divorce rate is too high, but who's responsible, and what are some of the things we need to know about this subject? Here's an opportunity to check out your own views and maybe get a few pointers if you're in the process of preparing for divorce.
Answer TRUE or FALSE:
1. If there's going to be a divorce, the partner with the most education is the least likely to initiate it.
2. Males are usually the first to ask for a divorce.
3. In order to compromise, it's usually necessary to give up a certain amount of independence. Males are actually better trained for this than are women.
4. If parents are planning on getting a divorce, children need to be told about it in advance
5. A woman is most likely to ask for divorce because of her husband's infidelity.
6. Children who grow up with constant conflict between parents share many of the same problems as children of divorce
7. Couples who are about to divorce often have as much difficulty telling their parents as they do their children.
8. Children of divorced parents usually do better if only one parent attends school functions.
ANSWERS:
1. FALSE. While the chance of divorce is less when both parents are well-educated, when there's a sharp difference, the better-educated partner is more likely to initiate divorce.
2. FALSE. This is a common misconception. Actually, two thirds of divorce suits are filed by women. Females are much more likely to want to start preparing for divorce than are their male partners.
3. FALSE. Compromise is essential in any partnership, but females are much more adept at it because most have been trained from an early age.
4. TRUE. Parents should always discuss this with children, and most important, reassure 'them that no matter what happens, their own future is secure.
5. FALSE. This is another misconception. Husbands are cited for adultery only slightly more frequently than are wives.
6.. TRUE. Couples should stay together for their children ONLY if they're not going to fight. Constant quarrels are always damaging. In which casedivorce is a better option.
7. TRUE. A couple's parents are often very involved in their marriage, and a separation can be traumatic, especially if there are grandchildren. Although couples count on their parents for support, they often feel guilty and experience a lot of conflict when talking with them about an impending divorce.
8. FALSE. Not only should school officials send out notices to both parents, children almost always make healthier adjustments when both parents participate.
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