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The feeling of self-respect and personal worth is the greatness asset anyone can ever have.
When we hear the word self esteem we know what it means (hopefully). But how many people have a good level of self esteem to carry through their lives? Going by the definition of Self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden- Self esteem is the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness. It consists of two components:
1) self-efficacy -- confidence in our ability to think, learn, choose, and make appropriate decisions;
2) self-respect -- confidence in our right to be happy; and in the belief that achievement, success, friendship, respect, love and fulfillment are appropriate to us.
Self-esteem is indispensable to anyone who wishes to succeed in anything. It is definitely not all you require but without it the battle cannot be won. Like Mind Juice, it inspires us to achieve and allows us to take pleasure and pride in our achievements. For us to be able to cope with daily challenges and development it is quite essential to believe that, we have the capacity to achieve what we need and deserve happiness in life. As simple as that may sound, it is not automatic. It is a choice you have to make and nurture all day of your life. It takes more than a change of scene; it requires a change of perspective.
It quite surprising is how quick we are to accept negative judgment and how serious our lack of faith in ourselves can become. If I have decided to change my look by dying my hair to blonde from black. I should expect to hear- "What is wrong with your hair?", "oh no! Why did you?", "Please, tell me it's washable" or more ridiculous comment from people. Change is never instantly accepted. The truth is that how I wear my hair does not determine my integrity, its just a way expressing my creativity. So do not be scared to appreciate yourself. Express yourself, love yourself and celebrate yourself. Even when you do not get the support you need-Just do it! You would not feel praises, if you cant praise yourself. If you do not believe in yourself then forget true happiness. People are different- "First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win."- Mahatma Gandhi
If you look around in real sense, you will see that self-esteem is an idea whose time has come. We now live in a global economy characterized by rapid change, accelerating scientific and technological breakthroughs, and an unprecedented level of competitiveness. You cannot afford to remain clueless. You should not be found on a low esteem track at any given time. The society is not waiting for those that needs to be dragged along. You got to catch the bus on your own. The world needs people to roll their boat confidently.
An example is what is going on in organizations today. They don't just need those who are qualified for the job. They want people with a higher level of independence, self-reliance, self-trust, and the capacity to exercise initiative. Basically, people with self-esteem. In order to play a bigger role in life, you need to visualize a bigger picture of yourself. Once you have that picture before you, it will be much easier for you to paint that picture into reality. That is simply build your from the inside.
There is no right way to regain your self esteem. Different people have their own version. Lets learn with these:
"Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden
Over three decades of study and of working with people have persuaded me that there are six pillars on which health self-esteem depends.
1. Living Consciously. To live consciously is to be present to what we are doing; to seek to understand whatever bears on our interests, values, and goals; to be aware both of the world external to self and also to the world within.
2. Self-acceptance. To be self-accepting is to own and experience, without denial or disowning, the reality of our thoughts, emotions and actions; to be respectful and compassionate toward ourselves even when we do not admire or enjoy some of our feelings or decisions; to refuse to be in an adversarial or rejecting relationship to ourselves.
3. Self-responsibility. To be self-responsible is to recognize that we are the author of our choices and actions; that we must be the ultimate source of our own fulfillment; that no one is coming to make our life right for us, or make us happy, or give us self-esteem.
4. Self-assertiveness. To be self-assertive is to honor our wants and needs and look for their appropriate forms of expression in reality; to live our values in the world; to be willing to be who we are and allow others to see it; to stand up for our convictions, values, and feelings.
5. Living Purposefully. To live purposefully is to take responsibility for identifying our goals; to perform the actions that allow us to achieve them; to keep on track and moving toward their fulfillment.
6. Personal integrity. To live with integrity is to have principles of behavior to which we remain loyal in action; to keep our promises and honor our commitments; to walk our talk."
Always remember--"Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance."- Bruce Barton.
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