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Here is some of the best relationship breakup advice I've learned when I found it difficult to let go of my ex, and desperately needed closure so I could move on with my life...
Advice #1: Look Deep Into Your Ex Lover's Heart, And Feel Compassion For The Inner Child Who Is Scared And Hurting Inside.
Even though we all look and behave (mostly) like adults, deep within us, we still carry the scars of our childhood. This often makes it hard for people to allow true intimacy in their lives.
So, even though the hardest part of going through a relationship break up is doing your best to understand why your relationship had to end, it makes it even harder when your ex won't even discuss it with you.
Still, realize that there is another way for you to get the answers you need - by using visualization. Imagine your ex lover as a little child. Then ask him or her what you need to know, and trust that the answer you are receiving is the truth that you need to hear right now to have closure, move forward and heal.
Feel compassion for your ex who is probably as lost as you about how to create a lasting, loving relationship.
Advice #2: Keep Telling Yourself That You It Is Safe For You To Accept This Temporary Arrangement.
The more safe you feel about letting your ex go, the easier it is to deal with the challenges of your life as a single person from now on.
Think about it this way: The more you try and change your ex lover's mind, the more he or she will resent you for undermining their decision. Instead of going against your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend's wishes, just give in and agree.
It seems romantic to try and get your lover to stay. But, in fact, your ex will feel more loved, accepted and understood if you will respect his or her decision for now.
Advice #3: Give Yourself Permission To Contact Your Ex In Your Mind.
Many people will advise that you keep the 'no contact' rule, but there really is no harm in contacting your ex, by using the power of your mind.
What do you do when thoughts of your ex boyfriend surface? Should you accept and embrace these thoughts, or should you fervently push them away?
Have faith in your subconscious - that it only brings up what can aid in healing your heartbreak. Trust in the process and allow yourself to feel and express whatever comes up from recalling the past - you will feel better once you decide to stop the struggle within yourself. You might even find the closure you need when you speak to your ex in your mind.
These are some of thebest relationship breakup advice that I received while I was going through separation with my ex. I hope they've brought you some comfort, and that you find closure so you can move on with your life soon.
