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I have written a lot of stuff to help get your ex fiance back together with you. Call me crazy, but I am a hopeless romantic, and I sure hope my tips and advice have helped lovers around the world reunite and be happy. Now, raise your hand if you are still in love, and you really want to get your ex fiance back.
Good! That is most of you, I think. Y'all must be as romantic as me. So today we are going to talk about what NOT to do, for a change, to get him or her back in your loving arms again. Avoid these traps, and you are well on your way to a reconciliation.
1. Take a deep breath (or better yet, grab several breaths) and do not harass your ex's parents, friends and relatives. Yes, the wedding and other plans have to be cancelled, or at least put on hold. Be polite, even-tempered and as helpful as you can with the relatives, including your own. They will send the message back to your ex that he/she was a fool to let you go.
This does not mean you have to talk about the situation to anyone. If the break up is too painful to talk about right now, let everyone know, clearly and simply, that you do not want to talk about it at the moment.
2. While we are on the subject of harassment, here is a big, ugly point. DO NOT bug, call, harass or annoy your ex's new partner. No matter how crazy it makes you. Just suck it up, and keep on going.
Do not talk to them, or try to convince them that your ex still really loves only you. Or that you are bound to get your ex fiance back in the end, so the new mate is simply wasting their time, and feelings. It just makes you look like a pathetic loser, which you most definitely are not, right?
3. If your ex asks for his or her stuff back, return everything promptly, including any rings. Do not keep anything back. It's called taking the high road. It makes you look mature and strong. It may even pique or irritate your ex that you appear to be cutting all ties between you, so quickly and cleanly.
This simple little act could actually lead to the two of you talking again, and then who knows? Anything is possible. It could be the start of a new phase of your relationship, where you are friends who see each other regularly. You can build on this. If you need help or a plan, take a look here. Before you know it, you could get your ex fiance back.
Also, do not refuse to pay your fair share of any costs that were already run up in planning the wedding or parties. In this case, you need not rush to pay right now. Your word should be good enough, for the moment.
4. When you talk to your ex again, hopefully after a cooling off period, try to work things out. But fight fair. Do not bring up what happened in the past, or something she said. No personal attacks or insults, no dumping on your fiance's family, no shouting, and of course, no throwing dishes! And make very sure your love shines through, even or especially when you bring up touchy, sensitive points such as money, cheating, abuse, etc.
Your goal here is not to win the battle or even the war, but to win the grand prize and get your ex fiance back. To do that, you and your fiance have to be best friends. That means having a close relationship with good, clear communication on ALL things.
You can tell when couples are best friends. It really shows by how close they are, how they seem to function as one. It is said, in fact, that friendship is like peeing in your pants. Everyone can see it, but only you can feel its true warmth.
5. Finally, here is some confusing, even vague advice, but still important to you. Give your ex the space and time they need to think and reflect on what happened between you. Be gentle and patient at all times. Do not crowd or push your ex to make a decision. This will only most likely drive them further away from you.
Occasionally, you will have to play a waiting game and feel your way along, depending on the reaction you get from your mate. This is fine. It will be worth it in the end.
