subject: How To Get Over A Divorce For Women - 3 Tips For You If You Resist Divorce [print this page] How To Get Over A Divorce For Women - 3 Tips For You If You Resist Divorce
Learninghow to get over a divorce for women is particularly difficult because no matter how bad your marriage was, part of you still desperately wants him to stay. So since you resist divorce, here are 3 tips to help you make peace with your situation, and hopefully help you to move on with your life...
Tip #1: Just Stop Trying To Repair Your Marriage (Especially In Your Mind).
When a marriage ends, it's so easy to take it out on yourself - to imagine there must be something wrong with you, that's why he left. You might even find yourself going into a frenzy, trying to become 'the perfect wife and mother'. However, this is just your subconscious trying to help you cope with your loss. It's not necessary for you to do this anymore.
Can you accept that it is not possible for any of us to control the events and circumstances that occur in our lives? If you can accept this, then do you realize that it is not possible for you to repair your marriage right now because there are factors that are out of your control?
The factors I am referring to, of course, is your ex husband's thoughts and feelings. If you try to repair your marriage right now (in a state of emotional confusion and loss), you will ultimately end up trying to 'fix' your ex husband's thoughts and feelings instead, which is simply not possible. So please just stop all your attempts to perform repair work on your marriage, and follow the next tip I have for you instead...
Tip #2: It's Time To Get Your Bearings And Make Decisions For Yourself.
After you marry, it becomes hard to differentiate where 'you' end, and 'we' begins. So, you end up trying to make decisions for two people, because it's your way of taking care of your husband.
However, don't you think you might have just overdone it a little, and lost your individual identity in the process? So, it's time to reclaim yourself. And the way to do this is to figure out what you, the individual wants.
But how? Well, the more you know what you don't want, the easier it is for you to know what you do want. So get a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle. And on one side, write down a list of what you don't want. Then on the other side, write down the opposite.
Instead of focusing all your thoughts on what has gone wrong in your marriage and feeling bad about yourself, don't you think it's a better use of your energy to think about what you want instead?
In fact, the more you think about what you want (without judging yourself), the lighter you will feel. I guarantee it.
Tip #3: Throw Away Your Old Self-Image, And Create An Improved Version Of Yourself.
Right now, you have a choice - you can let divorce pull you down, or you can let it lift you up and become a better person as a result.
I'm not saying it's easy, but you will need to make a decision about which path you want to take every day. And since you need to get over divorce either way, why not choose the road to happiness? I know you can do it.
How do you feel about yourself? Do you think you are a worthless person because the person you love left you? If your answer is yes, it is a clear indicator that you need to redefine the way you see yourself. Recognize that your value and worth is unquestionable - that you are good enough just by being alive.
But right now, going through a divorce gives you an opportunity to let go of old ideas about yourself (those you never really liked in the first place anyway), and create an improved version of you, the beautiful, magnificent Goddess.
I hope these 3 tips onhow to get over a divorce for women gives you some direction on how to move forward after this painful experience. I wish you the very best on your process.
