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Being dumped for no good reason is extremely confusing and frustrating. I completely empathize with you. Hence, I created this article to share my advice on how to handle a break up for women - who have been dumped for no reason, and what to do next if you still want him back, even though he broke your heart and put you in this painful situation...
Advice #1: Just Agree With Him For Now.
I know it's hard to agree with your ex lover about breaking up when there are no good reasons to support why your relationship should end. Still, here's why you should and must agree with him for now if you want to win his love back: The reason is that agreeing with him puts you both on the 'same page' - and because you and him are on the 'same page', he has subconsciously no choice but to start 'liking' you again. Why? Because we all like people who agree with us! It makes us feel understood.
Think about it for a moment. How does it feel when someone agrees with you? Doesn't it make you feel like you have an unexplainable affinity with that person? How about when someone disagrees with you? Does your affinity with him go up or down? So, if you want the man you love to feel an increased affinity with you, please just give him what he needs right now (even if you have to fake it), by agreeing with his decision first.
Advice #2: Stop Trying To Fix The Situation.
The reason you need to know "Why" he broke up with you is because you think that if you can just figure out what went wrong, maybe there is a possibility that you can do something to fix it. (This is probably currently the only way you know how to regain control of your situation.) But I am here to let you know that there is another way for you to reclaim your power in this relationship. And that is to stop trying to fix things. I know this is counter-intuitive advice, but you need to accept that there really is nothing wrong with you and you didn't do anything wrong.
Most of all, you need to accept that you cannot control your ex lover's thoughts. Stop trying to manipulate him with your actions. It's not going to work and he's going to resent you because guess what? He already knows you are trying to manipulate him using 'guilt'... So what do you do with all your "spare time" if you are not trying to manipulate his thoughts with your actions and words? Read on to find out...
Advice #3: Figure Out What YOU Want Instead.
This break up is truly a blessing in disguise. I know it doesn't always seem that way but it has given you an opportunity to step away from this relationship, and think about what you do want from a man. For example:
Do you now realize that you want a man who is more open and communicative?
Do you now realize that you want a man who is able to stay and work on your relationship together (instead of running away when something he doesn't understand scares him)?
Do you now realize that you want a man who understands feelings enough to know that feelings are temporary and they can be changed if he will just communicate?
Do you want a man who respects you enough to give you an explanation and chance to work things out instead of saying things like "my feelings have changed", or "something is missing from our relationship"?
Use what has happened to your advantage by clarifying with yourself what kind of man you would prefer to be with instead. Don't expect the man you love to change but, give yourself permission to ask for anything you want. Don't judge yourself, even if you think you are asking for the stars. Just daydream a bit and distract yourself from all the pain that has just happened.
If there was only one advice I could share about how to handle a break up for women who have been dumped for no reason, it would be to stop bugging the guy and work on healing and balancing your own emotions instead. Nobody enjoys dealing with a woman who seems to constantly be on an emotional rollercoaster ride, and who questions her self-worth.
