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You want a rewarding and fulfilling marital bliss? You can have one, but you need a dose of reality first. Here are things you need to say I do' to before working down the aisle. Do you know you'll have to work hard?
Living with a man is not all fun my dear. You have to be willing to work. Some women think if you're a perfect match, your marriage shouldn't be work. Those people are called divorces. Its true your marriage shouldn't be work every hour of the day, but there are days when you marriage will require extra energy; anything worth having is worth working for. Do you have a sense of humor? A sense of humor is vital for you to live with a man and the first person you have to laugh at is yourself. God has sense of humor he obviously assumed we would too. Do you realize marital bliss is not 50/50? You figure you'll give half and you meet somewhere in the middle .poor, poor dear, the reality is there will be some days you'll give 90% and may and may not get back 10% back. There may be weeks or months that pass with the scales out of whack. Remember you committed your life to him, and in your lifetime the scales will shift back in your favor. Interestingly, the scales will align faster if you abandon the score card and self pity. Do you have a general acceptance of your significant other short comings?
Does he leave the toilet seat up? Get over it. Are his table manners a fright? Look the other way .try seeing your hubby's annoying habits as endearing. In addition to his positive traits, his quirks make who he is. Figure out a way to truly accept the whole package the good the bad and the ugly. Do you have expectations of your soon to be spouse?
Fundamental expectations like been treated well, being faithful, or been honest are covered by you wedding vows. If you want a long lasing marriage, let go of any romance novel or lifetime movie expectations you have. The men in Hollywood or nollywood are actors are not geared for romance and eloquent, loving speeches. With this attitude, you'll better enjoy the thoughtful little things your new husband does lower expectations and happily ever after go hand in hand. Do you know comparisons are a death sentences for marriages?
Like fingerprints, marriages are unique and specific to the individuals involved and the one- of a -kind bond they create. Instead of scowling at your husband when your friend brags about the romantic vacation her husband took on, just smile. May be your friend left out how her husband ogled other women on the beach or said something at dinner that made her cry. You never know behind closed doors be secure about what you and your husband share and the knowledge it works for you.
Do you know your fiance is bilingual? Read a couple of books about how men communicate or have a sit down with your aunts and grandma. He may not say I love you' 14 times a day, but he might fill your car when its out of gas, maybe he will cover you with a blanket when his cold, he may bring you a glass of wine when you're in the tub, or he might listen to the stories about the kids when he just wants to crawl in a whole and go to sleep. You have to read, understand and appreciate man-speak. In order for a marriage to be successful, reality can't be sugar coated, long term commitment are not for the faint of heart. A lasing union takes a great deal of patience, and guts. The benefits are countless, will leave you to discover those on your own.
