subject: How to Stay Happily Married [print this page] How to Stay Happily Married How to Stay Happily Married
Will Smith was interviewed a while back and he talked about his reason for his successful marriage. He said there is no way that there won't be really hard times in any marriage. If divorce is an option, then eventually, something will be difficult enough to bring down a marriage. For Will and Jada, divorce is not an option.
Because divorce is not an option for them, when the hard times come along, they work it out. But to have a happy marriage, not just an enduring one, there's more to it than that. In the past, when my mother was a divorcee', that was shameful because it was so rare. That word isn't even used today. Yes, people stayed married but that doesn't necessarily mean they were happier.
Because those couples didn't necessarily have great marriage skills, many of them were not "happily" married. They tolerated each other, they slept in different rooms, they lived their lives, putting one step in front of the other.
So where is the successful balance of "divorce is not an option" and being "happily married?" Well, we need to learn how to communicate effectively, to know how to avoid the build-up of resentment which is one of the quickest, and easiest, ways to kill love how to consciously keep the romantic love alive, to keep sex a priority, to have fun together, to continue to trust and respect each other all the things that are essential to a happy marriage.
All those aspects of what makes a marriage happy and enduring can be learned. The sad thing today is that divorce IS an option for most couples and combined with no marriage skills, when things get difficultand they always dodivorce is just too easy. What's hard is to take responsibility, admit you both need to change and dig in and take the steps necessary to learn new skills. Then, after all has been tried, opt for divorce from a wiser position, not as an easy fix.
To learn the skills necessary to create an amazing marriage, I have two programs that can make the difference between divorce and a happy, fulfilling marriage. One isMen Made Easyand the other isMarriage Makeover Manual. It does take some effort, but the rewards are definitely worth it.
