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What to Expect
You should be expecting "Nothing" and instead focusing on how far you are willing to go to win your ex back and how much information you are willing to know in order to form a plan in getting your ex back into your arms. Lower your expectations to a minimum level so you will not be disappointed if your ex does not come back. Reduce Conflict
Don't go creating unnecessary drama with your ex because you will drive your ex away. Here are some conflicts you should avoid:
- Making your ex jealous - Inconveniencing your ex
- Making threats - Starting an argument
- Harassments - Jumping into conclusions
- Lying and getting caught - Making accusations
- Over complaining
Lessen Your Mutual Involvements
You probably share a few things or activities or even friends with your ex where you don't want to have to leave those involvements behind. It may be something you don't want to give up or quit just because your ex is involved too. I'm not suggesting to get out of it completely; but try to lessen your visibility and associations as much as possible until things settle down.
Quick to "Take Away" and "Divide Your Valuables"
It may be wise for you to cut your losses and get back every last thing you lent your ex or might be a good time to ask for that loan back from a year ago. But make sure that you don't take away too much and go over the top which will make your ex upset. For instance, you are used to giving your ex a ride to work everyday and your ex depends on your transportation. All of a sudden you stop doing these favors and cut your ex completely off which in return makes your ex's life more difficult. I agree to doing things for your own good, but make sure you are not creating anymore conflicts between you and your ex in the mean time. You are about to loose the most valuable possession you ever had; your ex, does a few tangible things really compare to what you really want?
Little Black Book Rules (Finding a "Rebound")
Okay so before you go and pull out that little black book from thousands of years ago where it was hidden from your ex since you guys started dating; keep in mind a few ground rules:
- Only bite off what you can chew
- Don't be overly promiscuous
- Don't do things way out of character or what you will
regret later
- Don't rub it in your ex's face intentionally and draw
attention to yourself
- Don't do it out of revenge, hatred or anything negative
that might harm you or someone else
Most people tend to favor using the little black book as a way to heal emotionally. In my personal opinion, this is a risky strategy that does not solve the root of the problem and creates an illusion. I'm not saying that it won't work for you personally, but please use it wisely and limit the damages you will do onto others and yourself in the process.
