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A blessed and perfect marriage or relationship is the dream of every person, either man or woman. Of late, even children are also engulfed with the dream of experiencing a saccharine marriage when they are of age. One day, after a wedding ceremony, a five year old girl soberly interrogated his dad, "Daddy! will somebody choose me some day?" Her dad was taken aback and just replied, "Certainly, my girl!" So you see, the issue of one experiencing a lasting joyous marriage is a major priority to all.
Marriage can either make or break you. Marriage couples, therefore can opt to be glad in their marriages when they learn to accept what they have. Usually, quarrels occur when couples struggle with things they cannot change about their partners. A good marriage is created and does not come automatically. Positive change in marriage is not a one time event but a process. One has to do a series of good things continually in other to experience that blissful relationship. Let us now discuss some tips I believe will aid you enjoy a long and lasting marriage.
Tip #1: Understand the temperament of your spouse.
Your spouse's character is the summation of his or her temperament, experiences and beliefs. Temperament exhibits ones tendencies, natural strengths and weaknesses. It is very important that you identify and understand the temperament of your spouse because when you do, it will help you accept and flow with your partner, as well as help you to forgive your spouse when he or she hurts you. You cannot change your spouse's temperament! Rather, accept his or her strengths and weaknesses. Even knowing your temperament will show you what kind of person you are naturally inclined to marry. Avoid a lot of unnecessary quarrels by understanding your spouse's temperament.
People respond to situations differently depending on their temperaments. For example, when you are married to a choleric person, such a person gets angry quickly and unnecessarily. Therefore understanding this will help you to accommodate your spouse.
Tip #2: Accept your spouse for who he or she is.
Men should recognize that they are married to women, therefore, they must not try to repress the natural feminine characters, for example talking. Men should know that women talk a lot and about unimportant things, are usually sexually dull, and very petty and quarrelsome. Also, men must accept that things such as dresses, weddings, chatting for a long time and minutiae of issues usually are appealing to women but men may find them trivial.
Women should also recognize that men are generally more forceful and chat less. Men are also delighted in the factors of an issue and not the details. Women, understand that men are too interested in sex and food, usually do not help their wives to do house chores and don't talk enough with their wives. Men and women must accept their natural differences and flow happily with each other.
Tip #3: Decide not to quarrel.
It takes two to quarrel. In marriage, when one partner gets infuriated and the other keeps a cool spirit, the tension created by the angry partner quickly dies out. Accept peace in your marriage. When you get angry, be careful with your utterances. Words build! words destroy! Make up your mind that it is better to live in peace than to act against issues and prolong every matter. Do not be a cantankerous person.
Tip #4: Decide to to be content with the looks of your spouse.
Your relationship with your spouse must not be based on whether or not he changes physically. Understand that we all change physically as the years go by. Wives must endeavor to enhance their looks, so their husbands will be enchanted anytime they see them.
Tip #5: Decide to flow with the negative aspects of your spouse's character.
Identify the negative aspects of the character of your spouse and simply accept them. Accommodate them!
Tip #6: Decide not to provoke another to anger and bitterness.
Think carefully and discover new ways to love your spouse and to do him or her good.
We all must be joyful and happy in our marriages. But the happiness comes when we accept what we have and get along with it.
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