subject: What happens if we attach to emotions [print this page] What happens if we attach to emotions What happens if we attach to emotions
In Life we have the items, people, possessions or just things' we love. Could be a pet, a food, a piece of clothing or even a car; especially a car. Many of us males and females have cars in our lives that we have bought and made our own. Very often the car is a part of us in the respect that we share the same characteristics. For example, a young single man who likes to go out have a good time and loves a good thrill might most likely be found in a 2 seat sports car or a small car with plenty of power to zoom about.
In fact it is very interesting what type of car, a particular type of person buys. The typical types of cars men buy, and the type's women buy, there are many crossovers but certainly some that stand out as predominant in each. For example, the Mini Cooper is very much towards the female. The Volkswagen Golf is very much towards the male. However a car like the Audi TT is equally matched so it appeals to both. But why are there these groups. Are they really male or female cars? Or are they deliberately built and designed with a male or female in mind. Or both as the case may be. OR are they just our perceptions of them? To males a mini might feel to feminine to drive. And vice versa for females. So it just so happens we pick the cars that fit us and make us feel like ourselves best. From this can grow great Emotional Attachment.
To look into this idea further, the idea of Emotional Attachment to something - what about to the people in our lives? Well, what I have discovered recently is attachment doesn't help at all.
The situation I would like to use is my Grandad, 82 years and quite poorly. He had a stroke 17 years ago and had been fitted with a replacement hip and now the hip is worn out and the Doctors are not prepared to give him a new one. What I have learned is getting caught up in the attachment to my Grandad has not helped me. What I mean is not to stop caring about him, not at all. But to let go of the feeling of I have to do something to make him better and have to find the answer. Instead, realising the stage he is at and it is a natural process. Now what I can and do is to go and visit him and spend time with him every week and enjoy him for who he is. Instead of worrying about what ifs and buts are going on, seeing plain and simple and just going with the moment. That way, even if he does not have long to go, I feel I have made an effort to spend time with him and enjoy the time he has left.
What I learned is to let go of the attachment to a situation and the situation becomes much more enjoyable and happy.
