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Remember that feeling when you engaged yourself that you just didn't how to explain it, but you just felt so immensely focused without requiring any ounce of effort? That is what we called "being in state". You are almost unconscious, like you no longer feel you are there in your immediate surrounding and only focus on the task at hand. Thinking is no longer necessary, you simply do.
Having that great state is a trump card when you are out there meeting women considering it will influence your general state of mind and from there on your behavior. Even if you aren't in state yet, chatting to folks and approaching women will increasingly put your state into hard drive. Now here is what you can do to arrive into state and become invincible in social surroundings when you are out meeting women:
"Are you feeling entitled?" "Do you possess a source of entitlement?"
Assume yourself being the coolest guy around and that you have title and status higher than anybody else, and you will naturally behave like it because of those entitlements. Well, duh, I know that sounds so apparent, but to better exemplify what I am trying to get across, let me ask you this question...
If you were sent back in time, to your same high school classes again in your old self, and lets say you have been erased the things you learned the last time you were there, after gaining real life experience and with those real life experiences, wouldn't you have a fond sense of confident that didn't exist before in retackling them?
You would learn them with no nervous-inferiority regarding the classes being difficult because you should be entitled to learn them simply in consideration of you have been in the identical circumstance before, even though the subject matters been gone from your mind, and have been exposed to all those world experiences. Those antecedents will entitle you that the situation should be smooth sailing, being in those classrooms again.
Once again you don't know the materials or have forgotten them, but your brain is telling you that you are entitled and this should be only child's play. You would have a feeling of entitlement that you have to be the top student.
Now think of it back to getting women. You deserve that feeling of entitlement due to you have previously dated Playboy models, porn stars, celebrities, no matter how absurd it is. Because you have been with those high-caliber women, then you are entitled to get any girl, and the girl you just encounter should be yours and is not difficult, compared to those high-caliber women you dated, and you will express those attractive traits which she can't ignore and will want you.
Or possibly in terms of all-encompassing social dynamics. At a formal cocktail party, you are the president's son or the prince of England so it's your entitlement people should want to be around you and respect you. At a night club, you are the bar owner, or Tommy Lee or Brad Pitt, who have these entitlements to get any girl and they desire you.
Take note that regardless you might not be these high-value people, you're expressing that. Are you being self-absorbed? Possibly you can say that. This is where self-worth comes from, this perception of yourself, governing you to easily get the girl without even trying.
However, remember that having that state won't make up for if there is a lack of skill set, but once you pass that threshold, you will have resilience when things don't go the way you want on account of nothing can influence your unshakable positive-state. Keep in mind this is only half of the game that will get you in the right direction when you're out. If you want to develop this complete education, take a look at my Art of Social Natural.
