subject: How To Save A Marriage And Stop Divorce Dead In Its Tracks [print this page] Nearly everybody who enters into a marriage does it for the right reasons. However often the dynamics change within a relationship Children enter the equation, and then mortgages, bills and money become very real. The honeymoon period seems like a dim and distant memory and there just isn't enough time in the day. There is no denying that a steady marriage takes an awful lot of work. If you feel that your marriage has started to unravel at the seems and you want to know how to save a marriage and stop divorce dead in it's tracks, then you need to read on!
It is very easy to fall into an everyday routine when you have responsibility. You maybe have to pick the kids from school on the way home from your part time job. On the way home you realise that you haven't got anything organised for supper, so you drag the kids kicking and screaming into the supermarket. You get home and start to prepare the meal ready for when your partner gets home. Your partner arrives home from work and has had a real bad day, so they are in a foul mood. Your partner wants to rant and rave about the day from hell that they have just had, but you are too busy still preparing the meal to listen. This then sparks of an argument of how they are always in a bad mood these days and how you talk more to your mother than you do your partner. You can see how quickly this sort of thing gets out of hand.
Now just imagine another scenario: You finish your job for the day, and pick the kids up from school. You don't have to worry about supper because you got it all organised yesterday evening. Your partner arrives home from work, still in a bad mood, but you take the time to listen to them tell you all about their day from hell. You tell them to go and have a nice bath to relax, meanwhile you get the supper warmed up. After supper you put the kids to bed and sit down together with a glass of wine and talk.
The point of these two scenarios is to try to explain why it's important to make time for each other. You need to devote time alone each day to be with each other, even if it is only an hour. This way you will find that if anything is bothering you it doesn't fester. You can talk about it and get it out into the open.
Spending quality time together doesn't have to involve huge expenditure. Things like packing up a picnic and going to the beach, or getting someone to babysit the kids and having a night in with a cheap bottle of wine, a romantic movie and some microwave popcorn.
Just regularly doing this one little thing can really help your relationship. However, this is only the tip of the iceberg.
