subject: How to Make Your Marriage Stronger After Cheating [print this page] How to Make Your Marriage Stronger After Cheating
For most marriages, cheating is a real make it or break it kind of moment. It can either serve as a real wake up call that there are problems in the marriage or it can be the final straw that breaks the camel's back. Either way it's never an easy challenge for a marriage. But that doesn't mean that it can't be the beginning of a good thing for your marriage.
As painful as it is to go through, there are many marriages that come out on the other side of cheating stronger than ever before. Your marriage can be one of those "happy few" if you decide that's the right path for you to follow.
Here are a few things you can do to make your marriage stronger after cheating for those of you who are serious about your desire to save your marriage now that you realize how important your spouse is to you.
1) Make a point of letting your spouse know how much he or she means to you. This is a time when it is so important to make your spouse know that he or she is the grand prize and not the consolation gift. You might have to work to make your spouse feel as important as he or she should but the impact it will have on your marriage today and in the future is well worth the effort you put into it for the moment.
2) Start a new habit of having a positive attitude. Positive attitudes are contagious. There's no person on the planet better to give yours to than your spouse. Be a positive person in thoughts, words, and deeds and see what a difference it makes on your marriage and how you feel about your spouse as well as your marriage. Negative thoughts and attitudes make the world around you dull, dark, and gray. You want to be a source of brightness in your world and in your marriage. The general consensus says that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. Can you think of a better habit to form than one of positivity?
3) Plan for a future together. This works in more than one way. First you can plan together for the future you want to create. That means that both of you are involved in the planning process. Second, you can make plans for your future that include your spouse in it. That's positive thinking when you are making plans that include your spouse in your future and it will greatly improve the odds that your spouse will be there.
