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For the most part, it isn't going to be easy to help your wife get over the fact that you cheated on her. There are many reasons why this is such a difficult process. The first though is one that you're going to have to acknowledge at some point along the way. That is the simple fact that, as far as your wife is concerned, your cheating was about so much more than just sex.
For most women the fact that you cheated is confirmation of her worst fears. In their eyes, the fact that you cheated is a sign that she is a failure either as a woman or as your wife. In other words, the worst damage that is done as a result of your cheating is often the damage that she does to herself once her self-esteem and self-worth take a massive nose dive.
With women like this, the problem isn't sex, it isn't lying, it isn't the cover-up. It's nothing you've actually done. It's the fact that knowing you cheated makes her feel as though she has no value to you because you were turning to another woman instead.
Your wife is going to compare herself to the other woman in every way imaginable. It's even worse when she hasn't seen or doesn't know the other woman on many levels (not that you should EVER under any circumstances introduce the two of them if she does not know the other woman) because she is competing in her mind with a made-up image of womanly perfection that she could never possibly "measure up" to.
This leaves you with a majorly massive problem if you really want to save your marriage and help your wife get over the fact that you cheated. The problem is that she doesn't believe, deep down inside, that she deserves your love. Because sex and love go hand and hand with her and if she deserved your love, you would have never turned to another woman for love instead of coming to her.
So, here's what you need to do to help your wife get over the fact that you cheated. You need to make your wife understand how much you love her, cherish her, and how much the things she does for you every day make your life better. In other words, you need to make your wife feel as though you need her and her alone. This alone can save your marriage even after you've cheated on your wife.
