subject: How Do I Get My Marriage Back To Where It Was Before? [print this page] Did you know that over 2 million couples are going through a divorce, or filing for a divorce in the US alone. If you feel that you and your partner are headed down this slippery slope and you are asking the question "How do I get my marriage back to where it was before" then I have some good news for you! It is possible to save a marriage that's in trouble and indeed get it back to a position whereby it is stronger than it ever was before.
The first and most important thing to do is to re-establish lines of communication. More often than not when communication is lost between couples, the marriage inevitably falls by the wayside. So it is imperative that you keep communicating. One good way to do this is to sit down with your spouse and talk openly and honestly about your feelings. Take it in turns to listen to one another, and take it on board.
Once you have listened to your partner, then the next step is to take action upon these points that your partner has brought up. Don't wait for your spouse to start before you do. It is imperative that you take action first. Once your partner sees that you are doing something about getting your marriage back, this will signal to them that you are taking control of the situation and you want your marriage to work. It will also tell them that you respect their feelings and wishes, and will make them see you in a more positive light.
Seeing your partner in a more positive light is very important because it is easy to focus on the negatives of your spouse, especially if you are both going through a difficult time. Try to think about the good side of your spouse, for example, what first attracted you to them, and what they have brought to the marriage. This will help to put your mind in a more positive place, and therefore this will get you to focus rationally rather than emotionally about ways to get your marriage back on track.
These are just some of the points that you can put into action today that will start to make a positive impact on your marriage crisis. However, this is just the tip of the iceberg.
