subject: How Can I Have Better Ejaculation Control? [print this page] How Can I Have Better Ejaculation Control?
How do you maintain an erotic mood while trying your best to maintain arousal without premature ejaculation? Most men out there deal with this same dilemma. We all want to keep our partner satisfied. But the more we heighten her sexual stimulation, the harder it is to keep control of our own.
Getting Her (NOT You) Turned On First
Women and men are wired to actually reach climax at about the same time. However, because women deal with insecurity issues and are often times self-conscious during sex, they subconsciously prolong their arousal. This is the biggest difference between our natural sexual inclinations.
This can work well for men who deal with premature ejaculation. If you take more time turning her on by paying attention to all of her, not just her g-spots, she will relax and feel more inclined to reach orgasm faster. And you will be focused on her rather than consumed with worry about your own orgasm.
Priming Her For An Orgasm
Women have the upper hand in some areas though. Because they can last longer in the phase of sex that precedes an orgasm, they tend to take longer to climax. Take advantage of this opportunity and use manual stimulation to get her there sooner. Use your fingers on her clitoris, which is primed for action, during penetration.
At this point, you will probably feel your own pulse rising. Don't get too caught up in the heavy breathing and heart racing feeling or you will lose control of your arousal. Take slow and steady breaths to relax your muscles and prevent yourself from spilling over the top.
Race To Finish: Maintaining Your Own Awareness And Control
As you both get more excited, your partner will speed toward climax with no changes in rhythm, intensity or thrusting. She will ride the wave to the end, so do not change your position. This could break her concentration and send her back to stage one of arousal. To keep yourself from ejaculating too soon, redirect your focus away from the sensations in your penis and concentrate on your breathing, your muscles contracting or the strength of your arms supporting you. This brings you fully into awareness and gives you better power over maintaining your erection until you both are ready to explode.
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