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Make a relationship work.
When we date, we're full of enthusiasm, like a bouncing Labrador puppy, always looking to please to have adventures. When the puppy grows up, it gets up to eat, collapses in a heap on the floor and sleeps most of the day moving occasionally to fart.
Relationships are go the same way, however hopefully without too many farts! In a relationship after time there is a tendency to take the other person for granted, the romantic gestures dry up unless it's for birthdays and Christmas's. The weekend breaks turn into the main holiday once a year, and meals out evolve into the carvery at the local Beefeater on a Sunday to save the washing up.
There are three main points to keep a relationship alive.
Communication
Make time to talk; not just during the adverts while eating your dinner on your lap in the evening. It's fine to have time to yourself, however each of you needs to feel engaged with one another, doesn't it feel good to discuss what you've done during the day, to talk about an issues that may have happened.
Surprise
Don't you remember when you got little gifts for no reason other that to make you happy. And not just buying a pair of socks at the supermarket because you noticed his had holes in them. Making a favourite meal without warning, opening a bottle of wine on a week-night and showing your loved one to a candlelit table. Perhaps your could surprise her bouquet of flowers; or even booking an afternoon off work to get all the housework done and whisk her off to a nice restaurant. The small things matter, and big things get you brownie points.
The small things matter
Simple courtesy that you did in the early years but now it doesn't happen, holding a door open, clearing away the dirty dishes. Putting the laundry into the washing machine. The domestics that were endearing and you like doing to help, now you forget to do them, or it seems a chore. Stop right there! The small things make a big difference. Relationships end because one or other of the relationship feels unloved and unappreciated.
Ok, you have found yourself in a relationship, you did it because it felt good, you had passion, you had excitement now it all seems dull and dreary. Make a pact with your partner right now. Agree to do three nice things for each other each week. That teenage spark will soon be burning bright. Ultimately have fun, people spend thousands to have what you have, just to get into the position you are in. You've done the hard work, just keep up the maintenance and your relationship will soon become priceless.
