subject: Self Improvement By Learning Assertiveness [print this page] Self Improvement By Learning Assertiveness
Self empowerment by empowering yourself with assertiveness
Firstly, let's look at what is assertiveness?
Assertiveness is the capability to express how one feel and defend/fight for his rights while respecting the feelings and rights of others. Assertiveness is also often associated withpositive self-esteem and portrait a better self-image.
Why most people are not assertive? It is because they areafraid of displeasing other and the feeling of not being liked. Are you one of these people that is guilty of this? If yes, here is your chance to learn how to be more assertive. Next question is why must we be assertive?
Assertiveness is another important aspect of ourpersonalgrowth because if we are assertive, we can get our idea and thoughts across to the others effectively without being too pushy oraggressively. We must stand firm to the value we have, but not to the extent of inflexibility. With this empowering element built into us, we can become a better person in life, leader at work. There are no specified methods to learn or techniques tomaster, it is your conviction at heart that brings you to assertiveness.
How to become more assertive?
1. You must first built a value in your heart, stick to it and don not sway from it. Make sure this value is a positive and empowering one.
2. Do not give in to interruptions when you aretalking, instead you should say "Just a moment, i have not finish".
3. Draw a boundary line to clearly define your own boundaries. Make clear to the others on your boundary and must not allow them totrespass it.Aggressive people do have their boundaries, but they defend it in a rude and overbearing way. Take note and do not follow.
4. Must learn to say "no" to people or ideas that are bending your values or principle, do notafraidto reject people.
5. Try new things that you have never done before, nohesitation andprocrastination, just do it. Sometimes, you just need to take the first step.
You will live a life of influence, leadership, and gain therespectof people around you if you can learn torespectyour own views and assert yourself.
