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Charlie Sheen's addictions are not the problem. They are merely a symptom of the pain that is deep in his subconscious. In addiction you have the outward manifestations of internal problems. Sometimes they are life-threatening, drama provoking and chaos creating. Watching the hurricane tear up the fabric of Charlie's life you have to wonder, what will be left to rebuild after the storm dies down?
The real pain is buried in his subconscious childhood from decisions that were made on a survival based mechanism of a young child trying to survive until tomorrow. Generally the child has three options. One - shrink down to incorporate baseline issues such as I am not worthy of love. With this one it doesn't matter who tells you that you are great, or that you're worthy of love. Subconsciously you know that you are not. So when the pressure of love and happiness grows too much, you implode externally and internally to verify what you know to be true subconsciously. Just watch the behavior of Charlie Sheen imploding to verify this.
The second option of a child is to take on the burden of a beloved parent. To say to the parent - I love you so much that I will show you how bad it is. I will take on your addictions and your pain and expand them out so that you will see how much pain there is. Then maybe if you get better, then I will also get better. Remember this is not the thought process of an adult, but the childhood hope based on a need to love the parent.
And the third option for child is simply to die. With Charlie we watch time after time, rehab after rehab, meltdown after meltdown, an attempt to deal with his outward symptoms of addiction. Charlie's game plan should be threefold. First, focus on his subconscious childhood issues keeping him hitting the wall time after time. Second, continue dealing with the external symptoms of various addictions with a focus on keeping them at bay in order to create a breathing space for change to occur on deeper level (instead of placing a Band-Aid on a pleading artery). And third, create understanding with the knowledge that change sometimes happens slower than we would wish.
Ultimately the choice is Charlie's whether or not he wishes to move on from this cycle of pain and addiction or sit back and enjoy the chaos.
