subject: How Do I Trust My Husband Again? - Moving On From The Affair [print this page] How Do I Trust My Husband Again? - Moving On From The Affair
Trust is the foundation that any strong and loving relationship is built on, it is the basis on which all other aspects of a healthy relationship stem from. Once broken, lack of trust can quickly tear apart your marriage. It may seem like an impossible thing to do right now, but learning to trust your husband again is something you need to do.
"How do I trust my husband again?" A question that every wife asks when trying to rebuild their marriage after an affair. Trust is something that is earned, so it is important to realize that you will never regain that trust unless your husband is willing to help you in every way they can. Your husband must be willing to take full responsibility for his actions, and understand the deep emotional trauma he has caused you. He also has to acknowledge that you are still in pain and accept that he has a responsibility for helping you overcome the damage he has done.
The only way to rebuild trust after an affair is if you both commit to repairing your marriage. An agreement must be reached where both of you pledge to do everything you can to overcome the affair. For you, the injured party, the seeds of trust will only be planted when your husband has apologized for his actions, and you feel that he truly understands the pain and heartbreak he has caused. Trying to force an apology or press him for details about the affair will only frustrate you, and cause your husband to become defensive. Talking about the affair will come later, and more naturally, as trust develops. If you have both pledged commitment to your marriage, allow your husband to formulate his apology in his own way, it will mean so much more, and you will be more open to accepting.
Do not try to force yourself to accept the apology, this will happen in time as the bond between you and your husband grows. You may not accept his apology at first, but over time, if he is committed to rebuilding the trust in your marriage, you will begin to slowly open your heart to the possibility that there can be a future for your marriage.
