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Are we in danger of having goals that are so big we're actually pushing them away?
Are we idealizing' them rather than being practical about them?
To idealize' means
"something that exists only as an idea";
"Exalted to an ideal perfection or excellence"
"A portrayal of something as ideal"
"To regard something as ideal"
"Something that exists only as an idea"
When I read those definitions, a few things really stand out to me. The first three definitions point to an image of perfection they suggest that there is always "something better" we can aspire to. That idea can be both helpful and hurtful in our path of personal development.
It can be helpful when we use it as a pointer to look inwards at why we feel something is misaligned it can help us inquire within ourselves about how we are not integrated with the true nature of who we are.
However, it can also be very detrimental to your development. The negative element of that is it suggests "the grass is always greener on the other side," and if you've ever actually gone over the metaphorical fence, you've probably discovered that isn't always true.
When we continue to believe there's always something better than what we have, we get stuck in a lack mentality.
Think about that for a moment.
We're not usually consciously aware of this, but it's very simple. The sheer premise that what you have is not good enough is lack. And if you know anything about the law of attraction, then you'll quickly put it together that associating with a sense of lack is the quickest way to avoid getting what you want and staying stuck where you are.
So at the very least, by idealizing what you want (whether it's financial abundance, the perfect relationship, the big house, or even enlightenment), what you're really doing is moving into lack and separating yourself from the very thing you want.
Now let's look at the last definition, which I find particularly interesting
"Something that exists only as an idea."
Taking this one step further, that means that whatever we idealize DOES NOT EXIST except in our minds except as an idea. Since you exist and the idea does not exist, you are by definition separating yourself from the very thing you want!
The process of idealization forces us to live either in the past or future not in our present. And again if there's one thing we've learned from the law of attraction, it's that being present and in a positive emotional and spiritual state is how we attract what we want in our lives.
Therefore, it stands to reason that if we want something, the best way we can get it is to not idealize it. Rather than see your idealized goal as something you don't have (i.e. as separate from you), it's important to let go of the idealization.
It's important to let go of what the goal "means" to you To let go of how this "one thing will change your life forever" and to let go of the belief that all your dreams will come true "someday."
For years I went round saying that if I lost weight my life would be perfect and one day someone said to me "what will happen when you do lose the weight"? and I had no answer. It was all I could see'. So yes I did lose the weight but I tell you what my life was far from perfect. All it made realize was that I had wasted so much energy and time on something so trivial.
So how do you do this?
Lose the attachment put it out there and forget about it; So write the goal, see it, feel it, in as full as detail as you possibly can, then send it into the ether and forget about it.
But remember take ACTION - just writing the goal, and thinking it will happen' won't make it so. You Have to Take Appropriate Action. Whatever that means. DO IT.
Next time you find yourself wishing for something better, remember to change your focus. Instead of focusing on what you don't have (what you are idealizing), instead tune into your heart and focus on what you have that you are grateful for.
Remember that whatever you idealize is an idea that does not yet exist.
Instead, focus on what is REAL in your life.
All that exists, quite literally, is in the present moment. Yesterday has gone and there's nothing you can do about it. Tomorrow's not here. We only have today the present'. Open it with expectation, Use Today. Be in the Moment. Enjoy the Journey. Remember tomorrow is the today you're thinking about now!
Stop for a moment what are you thinking? About dinner? About what the boss said to you 3 hours ago; what you're going to wear tonight? The Point of Power is in the Present Moment. Use it Wisely
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