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Cheating is a huge burden for the average marriage to bear. But, your marriage is better than the average marriage. It's your marriage and you believe, deep down inside that you can save your marriage after cheating. You just don't know how.
You can make your marriage work for you both after cheating. You just have to know where to get started and how to make the most of your efforts.
Cheating is no small thing in a marriage. It should be big. You made vows together. Forsaking all others was one of those vows. But it wasn't the only vow you made. You also made a vow about good times and bad times too.
Now it's your time to really shine as you work to make things right in your marriage after cheating. Here is some relationship advice that works like a charm and can help you get back in the good graces of the person you love most in this world.
Apologize
This is the one thing that is a must. This isn't something that your spouse is just going to forget about and "get over".
You need to come up with an apology that is appropriate for the sense of betrayal your spouse is feeling in order for it to be truly effective. Don't just say you're sorry. Let your spouse know why you are sorry.
You don't need to give details about the act but you do need to let your spouse know that hurting him or her was the worst thing about all of this and that, more than anything else is something you feel true sorrow over.
Forgive
"Forgiveness is the cleansing fire that burns away old regrets and resentments." Jonathon Lockwood Huie. Truer words than these have never been spoken. Forgiveness though isn't only something you give to others. It's a gift you can give yourself as well.
Forgiving yourself frees you to a future that isn't weighted down with guilt. Forgiving others frees you to enjoy that future unburdened by the pains of the past.
It's time to forgive your spouse for the things you are holding against him or her. These are the things that led to your cheating in the first place. They will lead to you cheating again if you don't learn to let go of the past and truly forgive your spouse.
But, failing to forgive yourself for cheating and the other mistakes you've made along the way will only leave you vulnerable to being consumed by guilt. That isn't good for you or your efforts to save your marriage after cheating either.
