subject: How to Get Your Husband to Give You a Second Chance Even Though You Cheated [print this page] How to Get Your Husband to Give You a Second Chance Even Though You Cheated
You cheated on your husband. It's not something you're proud of. In fact, you've very ashamed of what you've done. You don't know how to even describe to your husband how horrified you are by your own actions.
You LOVE your husband. You don't understand how this could have even happened. You NEVER thought you'd be the kind of woman who would cheat on her husband. What kind of woman does that to the man she loves anyway?
Do any of these questions and thoughts seem the least bit familiar? If you're like most women in this situation you're feeling and thinking all these things and so much more.
You didn't plan to cheat on your husband. It wasn't on your "bucket list" or anything like that. You didn't plan or prepare for it. It just sort of happened when you were at your weakest point.
Now, you are left dealing with the fallout and the heavy price that is left to pay for cheating on your husband.
Suggest a Trial Separation
This does many things. First of all, it gives him time to cool off and really think about how much you and your marriage mean to him despite the fact that you've cheated. Time is a great way to let cooler heads prevail at a time like this.
Second, it gives him a chance to get a taste of what life is like without you in it. Make it a long enough time that he'll understand the full scope of what you do to make his life easier day in and out. He'll be surprised by how many of the little things he really misses once you're not there every day to do those things for you.
Finally, it lets him really feel what it will be like to miss you like crazy. That will generally take a couple of weeks. But it will sink in with him rather quickly. If he still loves you at all, this separation might be the perfect way to show him just how much.
Apologize to Him
During your separation, sit down and write a formal letter of apology to him. Be specific about the reason you're apologizing. Keep the letter simple but make it from the heart. Don't include details that are unnecessary but take advantage of the opportunity to accept responsibility and ask for forgiveness.
Let the letter rest a few days then read it with a fresh eye to make sure there aren't any potentially inflammatory lines in it. Drop the letter in the mail and allow it to be delivered to your husband.
You'll be surprised by the response you'll get from this process and how much it can mean to you to say what's in the letter and to him to read those things.
