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Of course, people at work know I'm engaged. I wear a diamond ring on my left hand, but no wedding band,vintage wedding invitationsand if I ever talk about PDog, I refer to him as "my fiance." I would just call him by his first name, but I have a coworker of the same name, so it gets confusing. (Side note: I HATE the term "fiance," because it seems like I'm trying to bring up wedding planning. I usually avoid talking about him at all. To compensate, I talk about my dog ad nauseam. No one is surprised.)
But I won't bring up my wedding planning, and if I am asked about it, I won't go into detail. For starters, I like to keep work life and personal life separate.
There's a bigger reason, though.
I work in an extremely cerebral environment. I'm in meetings with people who are intimidatingly studied and well-spoken. And there is a fairly stark age differenceI am the youngest person by a good twenty years. I appreciate that my coworkers take me seriously, and I don't want to do anything to remind them of my young age or relative inexperience. I'm sure people would be great about it if I did choose to introduce my wedding plans into conversation, but it's not the right choice for me. Is this over-analytical on my part? Maybe. But it works for my comfort level.
Well, I guess there's one person I talk about it with. She's around my age and works in my department, but she's not a colleague who's involved in my daily work. And it's nice to have that one person. A few weeks ago, she ducked in to show me her wedding invitations (gorgeous), and it was nice to have a little giddy, brides-to-be moment at work.
It took a relative stranger noting that my wedding is soon for it to sink in. For the rest of the afternoon, I was completely overwhelmed that we're getting married in three months. (I've been a little busy lately; guess it slipped past me.)
So I keep reminding myself: all of the basics are taken care of (except invitations, which are in-progress). Regardless of what details we complete, a wedding WILL take place. And I will be there. (So will Pdog. Probably. I don't know;classic wedding invitations I was pretty annoying this weekend.)
That's two questions for you:
1) Do you talk about your wedding at work?
2) Did the soon-ness of your wedding sneak up on you? Did you emotionally eat your body weight in onion rings over the weekend to silence the reverberating panic? No? Just me?
