subject: Marriage Happiness - Ten Tips For Happiness [print this page] Getting married is a big step, wanting the love to be there forever is a realistic though but it will take some effort. Here are some ideas for you to consider, they will help you reach that goal.
Continue the love through the problems - Be sure to keep giving love, don't withhold it, during hard times or when issues arise. Don't withdraw the love, it's a big mistake made often by couples, it's destructive. Honesty is best - Don't lie or be deceitful, your relationship won't survive errors made in this area. Honesty will allow your relationship to continue, sometimes it's difficult but it's worth it.
Avoid being judgemental - There are going to be things your spouse shares with you that may make you feel judgemental, avoid this impulse. They need to be able to communicate with you and if you judge them the communication will diminish. Flexibility - People grow and change so you must be accepting of a spouse or relationship that is experiencing life changing growth. Reserve alone time - you must reserve time for you and your spouse to have the opportunity to escape all the schedules and stress, this is very relationship affirming.
Your marriage always number one - No matter what the needs of your family of origin or of you children, always keep your marital relationship number one in importance and think of that before everything else. Forsaking all others - Remember your marriage is a life long commitment to each other. When you are having difficult times, don't turn to another for comfort and support. Doing this will create more problems. You need to be investing in your relationship not turning your back on it. Hold on - There will be times in your relationship when it is anything less than great, but honoring the commitment to each other is all you have. Hold on tightly and most things will resolve.
Build your marriage - Don't leave everything status quo. If you feel as if your relationship is lacking because of outside pressures than take a romantic weekend away from it all. Remember you will need to refocus on your relationship and a romantic getaway can be just what you need to get back on track. Communicate - Be sure to let your spouse know what you think and how you feel. Breakdown of communication is one of the biggest issues that married couples face. You may not need marriage counseling, but if marriage problems do arise, make sure that you address them rather than ignore them. Ignoring problems usually will just allow them to fester and grow, so it is important to take the bull by the horns so to speak.
