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Are you having one of those days where it feels like everything is against you? Maybe you started your day in the wrong mindset or received some bad news. Often, our mood is set by the number of affirmative moments that we've had in relation to the number of gloomy moments. Generally, to be in a good, effective mood; you need to have 5 times as many affirmative moments as pessimistic.
Noted psychologist John Gottman determined that this ratio of five positive to one gloomy is the "magic ratio". His study predicted the divorce rate of 700 newly married couples after 10 years of marriage with 94 percent accuracy. The predictions were based on scoring the ratio of positive to pessimistic interactions from one 15 minute conversation with each husband and wife.
Let's face it, pessimistic emotions can be harmful and unproductive; while, affirmative emotions can be very fruitful to you and those around you. One thing to keep in mind is that emotions are contagious. When you're happy, chances are, you'll make others around you a little happier. If you're sad, or even worse, wrathful, it is likely that you will affect the entire environment around you.
AFFIRMATIVE EMOTIONS ARE CONSTRUCTIVE WHILE UNENTHUSIASTIC EMOTIONS ARE DESTRUCTIVE
Someone who is consistently in a good mood is more likely to demonstrate confidence. Conversely, people who have persistent issues dealing with their tantrum may damage their credibility over time. By the same token, someone who is prone to open displays of emotion such as continual crying may be viewed less favorably than someone who is in determine of their emotions. Needless to say, riding an emotional roller coaster drains your energy and leaves you less likely to perform at your best.
While experiencing your deeper feelings and showing emotions are part of life and essential for living life to it's fullest. There are times and places where it is more accepted and productive, such as at home with friends and family.
THE KEY TO DEALING WITH RESISTIVE EMOTIONS
So, if you are not at a place where emotions are helpful, how do you staying focused on the task at hand and push aside any hindering emotions you start
to feel?
1. Accept What You're Feeling. It's okay to have feelings, but you need to understand why you're having them. So, ask yourself "why am I feeling this way?
Then, query yourself "what can I do to change it?"
2. Write everything out that is making you angry, tired, or sad. It is very therapeutic to get these feelings out of your head and onto paper. You may even write down solutions to the negative emotions that you are feeling.
3. Reach out to a Friend. By having someone who will listen when you are feeling down, you will dilute the weight of the burden that you're carrying.
4. Exercise. Whatever form of exercise you prefer whether it's running, swimming, cycling, or even weight lifting; it will take your brain off of your problems. Also, there is a physical, chemical release associated with exercise, which will make you feel better.
5. Get Away from the Situation. If something is irritating you, take some time away from it. By removing yourself from the situation, you will gain a broader perspective and give your mind some time to resolve what you're feeling.
Take these solutions to heart and before you know it, you're heart will feel better.
