subject: Is It Bad To Be An Academic? Is Learning Pick Up Different From Other Topics? [print this page] "I am in grad school for physics"I am in grad school for physics. I was wondering about your views on learning pickup. Specifically, do you think that learning how to be good with women is the same as learning to be good with any subject? In my case, I was never very good with math as a child, but when I got to college I began thinking of the physical workings of the universe, and that fueled a passion to learn physics, which required tons of math. I became proficient in mathematics because I was excited about it. I'm scared succeeding with women won't be the same. How shall I proceed? Are women a different breed than other endeavors?" - From Tim of Boston, MA.
Tim - I have to say thank you and also I want to say good luck! I actually have a MASTERS in physics.
That's right. The cat's out of the bag. I have a friggin masters in PHYSICS of all things.
And hats off to Tim. Because let me tell you, Physics is NO JOKE as a bachelor's degree, let alone going to grad school.
I spent sooo many hours in the library studying equations...and you know what?
IT WAS WORTH IT.
But only because I channeled all that intelligence I developed into something I actually CARE ABOUT.
I now create algorithms for how to be good with women!
It's really exciting.
But there is a real difference in the two subjects.
In fact, let's not call women "subjects."
When you are meeting a woman, you are not meeting an algorithm, or function, or equation.
Or maybe you are, but it's much too complicated for the human mind to comprehend.
But there are universal aspects that we can rely on to optimize our results.
For example, a MOST women like to feel that they are submitting to a stronger man, in order to feel attracted, or turned on.
So this is something you must satisfy in her.
How to do this? Well it varies from guy to guy, but the most reliable, universal way is to be SELF CONTROLLED.
This begins in your intention, and is carried through in your focus.
When your focus is under your control, it's not hard to pay attention to the things that convey you are a man she can feel safe OBEYING.
Woman are not subjects. But they have a few universal needs. These needs are outlined in the A-C.
Simply knowing what a girl needs, 99% of the time, puts you ahead of almost all the other guys (except for us).
One thing that WILL help you is to not be afraid of making mistakes, while at the same time, treating each woman as an individual. This means that you will talk to her as if she had the same depth and vulnerability as your sister or mother.
At the same time, speak out your mind and let the chips fall where they may (they will usually fall into your believe me).
When you are learning this stuff, you must realize that, unlike math, or any other science, you cannot control the outcome.
Humans have something in common with numbers, computers, rocks, books, nor history:
FREE WILL.
When you are dealing with a woman, you are dealing with a human being that has no dependence on what you think. They are absolutely free in their thought, and therefore their actions.
