subject: Unfaithful Husband: Women, Learn How to Deal with Him [print this page] Unfaithful Husband: Women, Learn How to Deal with Him
You definitely knew that something was wrong, but you could not just point out whatuntil you discovered that your husband had been cheating on you for quite some time.
There is nothing more painful than knowing the man you love the most may have been lying all along. Nevertheless, it is not that easy to walk away, especially when you are married and when you have kids. What should you do then? The following may just be what you need.
1. Determine what you want from that point on.
Would you like to save the marriage or not? This question is very essential as the answer can have profound effect on the family. Divorce is not a very healthy process, at the same time it is not easy to forgive someone for his misdeeds.
Do not rush. Give yourself some time to think. In fact, if you need it, ask for some space. The most important thing is you can come up with a decision you will never regret later on.
2. Talk the issue with your husband.
There are plenty of reasons why men cheat, and you need to hear them out. Perhaps there is a much deeper reason for it. Though cheating will never be justified, knowing the issues will let you know the best solutions.
3. Know the level of his sincerity.
Majority of the husbands who admit their mistakes will definitely seek out their wives' forgiveness. Now it is up to you to identify if they are sorry or not. It is also up to you if you are going to forgive him or not. Just remember, though, that if you truly want to move on after it happened, you need to forgive him at some point. That is the only way you can get rid of the build-up of negative thoughts and emotions.
4. Check your self-confidence.
It is so easy for you to lose your self-confidence when someone cheats on you. There may be even times you consider it all your fault: "If only I have given him enough attention" or "If only I try to be more pleasing to him." However, if you allow yourself to lose your self-esteem, the more it is difficult for you to get rid of your insecurity. You will always be hurting and hating.
This is where subliminal messages can be very helpful. A lot of people have used subliminal messages to help them overcome their deepest and most pressing personal issues. In this case, some of the affirmations you can use are the following:
I acknowledge the mistakes in the relationship.
I acknowledge my errors in the relationship.
I am aware there is still something I can do as a person.
I won't allow this to completely destroy me.
Rebuilding the relationship after unfaithfulness is never going to be very easy. There will still be times when you will lose faith. You also need to live by the fact that you have been cheated. Nevertheless, there are ways to co-exist with the past.
