subject: Controlling Social Anxiety [print this page] Controlling Social Anxiety Controlling Social Anxiety
Social anxiety is one something that affects all people, even if in very small ways. Most people face social anxiety in many ways each day of their life in various settings.
Fear and anxiety are encountered and depicted in many ways with people. People with certain social anxiety can experience any number of symptoms such as dry mouth, sudden and extreme sweating, queasiness, butterflies in the stomach, difficulty breathing, and shaky hands. Nobody likes it when this happens, and it can be extremely embarrassing and produce secondary emotions, as well. We will provide you some solid suggestions about how to deal with and overcome social anxiety.
Perhaps social anxiety is one of the reasons that young people are getting married at a later age then then did a generation ago, or not even getting married at all
Why you are experiencing social anxiety is difficult to assess, and there are so many possible reasons of it. For instance, you may have a job that requires you to work on your own all the time. If you aren't around people much, then you get used to it and that could be problematic. It is usually worse if a person has q low self worth and similar feelings and thoughts. So you can begin to adjust things when you make an attempt to go out and just be around people in some way. If that concept makes you stressed, then just do it in very tiny steps - but do it. You'll find so many different choices available to you. For instance, you can volunteer in your neighborhood or place of worship if that is applicable. Anything you are able to do that allows or forces you to become around people will help.
Figure out how to take note of the types of thought processes you have. A lot of people habitually wonder what others think of them. They actually play some kind of guessing game about what people think of them. We bet you have simply because everybody has done that at some point. The curious factor to that mental game is that the person playing it is usually wrong about what the other people think of them.
What most people think about other people is usually colored by how they think of themselves and how they actually are inside. When a good person meets someone new they will tend to think that the new person is good, while a bad person will tend to think everyone is just like him.
You do have the ability to change your mind. Work on transforming your thought patterns to something better and more positive. Yes, you will be required to work at doing this, but that is something you are in a position to do. That is about shifts in point of view and frame of reference in life. Keep working at it until it develops into a habit. Also, you can do this in much less time than you may be thinking can be done. You can do this in less than a month if you are dedicated and committed to doing so. Plus when you achieve this, you will be substantially less inclined to play the destructive guessing game.
A new person you meet may have as much or more social anxiety as you do. A warm smile can go a long way toward easing the anxiety for both of you. Taking a good friend with you as you go to a social activity can also help you control and ease you social anxiety.
