subject: Learn how to date - How to talk to men [print this page] Learn how to date - How to talk to men Learn how to date - How to talk to men
Learning how to date and how to talk to men doesn't have to be difficult.
We encounter new people all the time- at work, at the bus stop, at a bowling league, at the grocery store and the list goes on. Often the way that we meet are in simple passing making it hard to strike up a conversation.
If you are really interested in how to find Mr. Right, make it a priority as you would any other important goal in your life. Tell your family and friends that you are interested in meeting a nice man and dating. Don't be embarrassed to ask for help.
No matter how many failed dates you have had, don't get frustrated. The negative thoughts could carry into the next date that you go on (which you never know- could be the one) You want to treat each new date as a new adventure.
Don't be ashamed that you are not in a relationship. I know how frustrating it can get when alot of your friends have the whole married with children thing going on and you are so envious. You want that closeness, that connection. You want that different type of best friend in your life.
Sad truth in the whole dating game is that the more you have to give, the more attractive and intelligent that you are, the harder it is to meet men. Why?? because men can often be intimidated by that. They need to feel needed. They need to be your knight in shining armour so sometimes your independence can intimidate. They also may be afraidto ask you on a date. Men hate rejections (as we all do) Does that mean that you should pretend to be someone you are not? Absolutely not. Just don't be over dominating either. Just look at the way you dress, how you behave with men and how welcoming or rejecting you may seen. Be willing to make some adjustments to become more approachable.
Some tips on setting up that first date
* Show him with friendliness that if he asks you out, you'll go. Be friendly in a little flirty way. Not overly flirty. You don't want to appear easy either.
* If he seems interested but maybe a bit shy, ask him out.
* Don't be passive (again, don't want to appear easy) but be quietly aggressive.
Some of the main reasons that women in today's society have trouble finding Mr. Right or have trouble with the dating game are
* Seeing men's lack of movement as lack of interest
* Being too picky and too critical
* Scare to let people in due to past hurt
* Afraid to make the first move, they think that it will make them look easy or needy
* Stereotyping men on superficial qualities
Tips on how to get a date and how to have a successful first date
* Keeping it light and having fun. Humour is awesome quality. People love to laugh. That's a fact
* Being yourself but willing to stretch and modify your style of behavior.
* Staying in the moment and being present. Don't think about if you could marry him in the beginning. Don't push it. Enjoy it.
* Letting him be in charge. Most men feel like they need to take the lead. When he goes to pay the bill, don't offer up to pay half. (at least not on the first few dates)
* Don't expose all of yourself too soon. Savor the mystery some.
* Have fun- make him look forward to the next date
* Don't talk too much. Talk less and have fun more
* Don't come on too sexy too soon- This can scare some men away.
* Get close enough for connection but not so close that you are pricking like a porcupine
* Accept the face that you don't know if this person is the one for you. Don't run away because it wasn't love at first site or because sparks didn't immediately fly.
Don't put heavy expectations on a first date. View it as a mystery. If it's not the date of your dreams, so what!! It probably still beat sitting at home, eating pizza and watching TV alone.
