subject: Getting Your Ex Back EFFECTIVELY - Fix All the Problems First Or Don't Bother at All! [print this page] Getting Your Ex Back EFFECTIVELY - Fix All the Problems First Or Don't Bother at All!
Being as hurt, angry, and confused as you are at the moment, you probably think that there is no way that you will get your ex back. I beg to differ here. While things do seem rather hopeless and pointless right now, there is very definitely a chance for you to get back together again.
The one reality that you have to face is that both you and your ex have issues that led up to the relationship falling apart. Until these problems and issues are resolved, although there is a chance that you will get back together again, those same problems will arise again, and another break up will ensue.
So, what to do to ensure that your second time around is happier than the last. First of all, you and your ex need some time to get over the break up first. All that hurt and anger needs to disappear before you will be able to sit down, analyze your problems, and discuss how you're going to fix them.
My ex and I did just that, and I tell you it really worked. We were both so relaxed when we had a good talk about our problems, that we even found ourselves laughing about some of them! And yes, we did manage to sort through all the issues we had, and solve them as well.
Just try it, and you'll see what I mean. Give your ex a call after a few days cooling off time, and I can almost guarantee that he/she will be a lot more approachable, and willing to talk things through with you. You'll also find that it is a lot easier to admit to your mistakes when you're feeling a whole lot better about yourself as well.
You accept these things just as mistakes you've both made, and won't end up using those mistakes to blame each other for things that went wrong in the relationship. Another thing, it will be easier to promise each other to not make those mistakes again when you're not hurt and angry anymore, as well.
My ex and I, (obviously he's not my ex anymore!) got through our problems and fixed them in record time - all because we were both feeling totally up to it. You can get your ex back this way too. All it takes is a little patience, determination, and, during your chat with your ex, even a little humor!
