subject: Show Your Ex How Much They Need You By Disappearing For A While - Get Your Ex Back Quick [print this page] Show Your Ex How Much They Need You By Disappearing For A While - Get Your Ex Back Quick
After a breakup, you have to guard against becoming desperate to get your ex back. The more you tell them you love them and need them, the less chance you have of getting him/her back. The reason is that we always want what we feel we cannot have. As long as were have something, it becomes taken for granted and less appreciated. Take it away and we will fight to get it back.
For example, when your relationship was running smoothly, you took things for granted. You probably found fault with little things your ex did and were too quick to criticize. Although you appreciated him/her, you did not show it as much as you did when your relationship was new. But now that they are gone, you feel you cannot live without them. Do not beat yourself up over it. This is natural, whenever we lose something it always increases in value.
In order to get your ex back, you will need to turn things around and make them have these same feelings and make him/her see how much they need you. This is the reason you cannot chase them and try to make them see how much you need them. This might be what caused the breakup to begin with, you let your love for your ex become obsessive and they felt smothered. Everyone wants to be loved but few want to be smothered.
The best way to start getting your ex back is by accepting the breakup and move on with your life. This also means having no contact with your ex for a few weeks. By doing this you will make him/her see that you can live without them and they should have appreciated your showing of affection. Now that they no longer have it, they will long to have that affection back. Taking this time out will also let you get a better perspective of things. You can always learn from experience.
While you are learning from this experience your ex will be learning, what his/hers life is like without you and they will start to miss you. This is the key to getting your ex back. When you miss something, you become desperate to get it back and it will not be long before your ex will contact you. This is as it should be, since they broke up with you, they should make the first contact. By making the first contact they are letting you know that he/she misses you and needs you back in their life.
