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What to do after a miserable break up when your heart is shattered? Here are 3 tips that I hope will help comfort you through your pain...
Tip #1: If you are falling ill, it is time to hear yourself grieve.
Falling ill, losing your appetite, these are all ways that your body helps you to grieve. But have you released the sounds or voices trapped within your body?
Grieving is an inbuilt mechanism in our body system, that helps us to manage and stay alive when we lose an intimate lover. We all grieve differently. Still, it's important to allow yourself to release the thoughts and feelings that you have about losing someone you love. Otherwise, those trapped emotions will make you sick.
So what you can do to hear yourself grieve, is to:
scream into a rolled up towel or pillow,
speak to someone you trust and spill your guts,
listen to music and cry (or even howl)
grab a voice recorder and say what you are thinking out loud.
What you can feel, you can heal. Don't worry, your feelings are temporary and will easily change once you release them.
Tip #2: Read and understand more about the meaning of heartbreak.
Getting over a miserable break up requires you to have a mindset shift towards love and relationships. Your mind loves to grow and learn new things, so why not grab a book and understand more about the heartache you're going through?
The experience of being heartbroken is an important milestone in anyone's life. First of all, it gives you evidence that you are human and that you have a heart that is filled with love, desire, warmth and passion. Next, it teaches you how to be even more compassionate towards yourself and other people. Most of all, it forces you to discover new and better ways of interacting with others so that your next relationship can blossom and be a success.
Tip #3: Re-empower yourself in whatever little ways you can.
Don't wait for other people to come and comfort you. You know what you need best, so give that to yourself.
Who was the leader in your previous relationship? Did you let your partner make all the decisions, or did you stand up for yourself and make yourself heard? When we first fall in love, we often lose ourselves because we try to become someone else for the person we love. Now is the time to take back your power and choose to be an independent person who can take care of yourself from now on (emotionally, mentally and physically).
Once you knowwhat to do after your first miserable break up, you will feel stronger and braver to face the idea of loving someone again. I hope you feel comforted after reading this article, and I wish you all the best.
