subject: You Should Never Be Too Uneasy About Approaching A Woman [print this page] I know exactly where you are coming from if you have ever experienced the kind of approach anxiety that keeps you from actually taking the initiative to walk up to a woman you want to get to know better and I know what it feels like when you feel your heart sink because you know that you are letting an opportunity pass you by. It shouldn't make you that uneasy to try and approach a woman, but for some guys, it just does. How do you handle it if you experience the kind of anxiety about approaching women that it holds you back from being able to meet new women?
Here are some things that worked for me and I bet that they can work for you:
1) Get a wing man to go out to clubs and bars and get used to making approaches that way at first.
My big thing used to be that I just wasn't that good at starting a conversation with a woman and that would be one of the things that I would worry about. What helps is when you have someone with you who doesn't have a problem with starting conversations with women just so that you can get used to the idea of being able to go up to a woman and have something interesting to say to her. Eventually you want to be able to make a solo approach, but as long as it gets you started, having a wing man with you can be a big help.
2) Don't assume that rejection is the only outcome if you approach a woman.
And this would be the other big issue that I used to deal with. When you assume that you don't have a chance with a woman and that she will definitely reject you, it makes you feel like there is no point in approaching her because you are sure you know what the outcome is going to be. Here is the reality, though. You don't know what the outcome is going to be and you might end up hitting it off with the next woman that you approach. So, don't assume that a rejection is the only possible outcome.
3) Let her see your personality right off the bat.
This is something that definitely comes with experience. When you have the ability to give a woman a glimpse of your personality right away, you give her a reason to want to connect with you. That is, of course, if she likes what she sees in you.
