subject: How To Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back [print this page] Women are emotional creatures at the best of times, but following a break up their emotions will be more volatile than ever! One of the most powerful emotions of all is jealousy! So use jealousy to your advantage.
First of all you need to remain upbeat and confident following the split. Even though she has instigated the break, and even though deep down you might really be hurting inside, don't let it show! She won't like it that you appear not to be totally devastated by losing her. If you let her think you are upset and desperate to get her back, she will believe she is still in control and pulling all the strings. You need to get inside her mind and make her think that you are in control.
So how do you make her jealous and make her believe that you are not devastated?
First you need to refrain from contacting her. However desperate you may feel inside to speak to her, don't! The minute you pick the phone up to beg her to take you back, you are showing weakness and putting her firmly in control of the situation. Besides, weak men are not a turn on for women, stay strong.
Next, go out and buy yourself some new clothes, and whilst you are at it, get yourself a new hair cut. If you look good, you'll feel good, and if you look and feel good she will notice or get to hear about it! This will throw her confidence as she won't be expecting you to be so together and confident.
The next stage is to increase her feeling of loss of control.
The simplest way to do this is to take another woman out for a drink or for dinner, and publicise the fact well so that she gets to hear about it! When she hears that you have been out on a date, you can guarantee that she will be jealous, and however much she denies it, inside the jealousy will be eating away at her. The date does not have to be romantic, you could simply meet up with a female friend or acquaintance for a chat, the critical point is to make sure she knows you've been out with 'another' woman. Go some place where you know you will be seen, or get one of your friends to tell one of her friends that you are out.
Once you know she knows about your date, you need to find a way to see her, either an accidental meeting or a prearranged meeting where you organise to collect something of yours for example. For example send her a text asking if you can pick something up and finish the message with a single kiss. If she replies with a text that includes a kiss back, that is a good sign!
Make sure you have your new clothes on and are looking your best. When you see her ask how she is and tell her you're doing fine.
At this stage you need to judge the warmth of the reception she is giving you. If she is keen to chat and make conversation with you, do the same. Tell her about what you've been doing and stay confident. Show an interest in her life to make her feel good.
If the meeting goes well and you get good vibes, send her a text the next day suggesting a quick drink together. If the initial meeting doesn't give you warm vibes, continue with your social life and wait until you see her again before suggesting a drink together. In the meantime you could organise a drink with one of her friends to chat about life and try and get some inside information on what she is thinking. The mere fact that you're out for a drink with her friend might even pull at her heartstrings!
The key to getting back together though, is to stay confident and strong at all times for however long it takes!
