subject: Self Esteem Advice For Guys - Destroy That Negative Self Talk [print this page] It can be hard enough to achieve the things that you want to achieve without facing any negativity coming back at you, but when that negativity comes from yourself, that can make things even harder than they have to be. One of the more common things that guys who have healthy self esteem seem to have in common is that they don't give themselves a lot of negative feedback. They know that there is already enough of that out there, and they know that giving themselves that negativity is only going to end up serving as a severe roadblock.
Here are a few tips that can help you destroy that negative self talk so that you don't become your own worst enemy:
1. Catch yourself when you are doing it so that you can be conscious of the issue.
A lot of the things that we tell ourselves, we do on autopilot so we don't always notice that it is even an issue. However, if you start to become aware of the fact that it is indeed something that you are doing, you'll have an easier time dealing with it. So, you do want to become aware of the fact that it is an issue so that you know exactly what it is that you have to stop doing.
2. Use affirmations as a way to build up yourself and force a new habitual way of talking to yourself.
It might sound funny at first, but using affirmations can be a good way to help get over the habit of saying negative things to yourself. What you don't want to do, though, is use affirmations that sound ridiculous or are unbelievable to yourself. Use ones that DO sound believable and don't make you feel like laughing at how ridiculous they are.
3. Give yourself examples of your own little successes here and there.
We all have little successes that we can be proud of and acknowledging those successes can be a good way to destroy the pattern of negative self talk. It's kind of hard to get down on oneself when you are looking back on something that you can be proud of, no matter how small the success might be. So, for example, if your goals include getting better with women and you have an experience meeting and talking to a woman and it does go well for you, look back on that with some pride. You'll find that it becomes easier to start building your self esteem when you are focused more on the positives and less on the negatives in life.
