subject: How Am I Able To Get My Ex Boyfriend Rear? Helpful Legitimate Everyday Life Strategies [print this page] How many hours a day do you spend thinking about your ex boyfriend, almost to a point of obsession?
How Can I Get My ex Boyfriend Back? First off, do not try to rush things. You both need time away from each other. This will give you the opportunity to think less with your heart and your emotions and more with your brain.
Will Either One of You Change?
Trying to rush back into a relationship usually means little or nothing is resolved and picking up right where you left off is a recipe for another breakup down the road. Thinking back on what caused the breakup is of course, painful, but unless you try to figure out what needs to change, trying to reconnect is a very dicey situation.
And what does need to change in order for you and your Ex to get back together permanently? Is it you? Is it him? Is it both of you? One thing for sure--only you can change you. Only your Ex can change himself.
First, the desire has to be there. Without a sincere desire to change, for the sake of the relationship, the chances for mending a broken heart is pretty iffy.
The big frustration in how can I get my ex boyfriend back is not knowing the correct way to go about it. The most common approach is to get psyched up, just sort of stumble our way forward, with emotions leading the way, and, well, see what happens.
If you were to take "I'm Sorry" off the table, there would be almost no options left, because it's really all the average person knows in dealing with a breakup situation, with no clue what to do if that fails.
If whatever happened was serious enough to cause a split, 'I'm sorry' comes up way short as far as picking up all the pieces and putting them all back together. All the more reason to not rush into anything but take time to think things through.
This is Not a Time For Wearing Your Heart on Your Sleeve
No matter how badly you feel, put on your best face. It's a case of mind over matter. Going around in a depressed state of mind works against you, brings you down and keeps you there. Instead, focus on being positive and up beat. Easier said than done?
Of course. But keep in mind: You are what you feed your mind. Instead of constantly putting yourself down and thinking in negative terms, put on a positive face. Better to go around saying: 'I Like Myself, I like Myself, I Like Myself.' Try saying that a dozen times at various times throughout the day. You may also come up with some positive affirmations on your own, like: 'Every day in Every Way I'm Getting Better and Better.' Or you can pick up a Creative Visualization book online (at Amazon) very cheaply.
And along with the positive mindset, let your friends, and even your Ex know you are OK with the breakup, that it was best for both of you and it's time to move on. Psychologically, this strengthens you.
Of course, this is not what you really feel inside, but would you rather come across as a total basket case who can barely function without her boyfriend, this poor defenseless, pitiful creature, constantly beating yourself up, with no self- esteem; or rather, a self-confident individual, head held high, focused on where you are going in life. and thankful for what you have.
Yes, of course it's easier said than done, but you are in control as to how you react to what happens in life.
