subject: Finding Out Your Ex Girlfriend Cheated On You - Take It As A Lesson Learned [print this page] There are really two ways that you can take in something like finding out that your ex girlfriend cheated on you. One way is to take it as a sign that you did something to cause her to go out and find someone else and blame yourself for what it was that she did. The other way is to see it the way that it really is, and take it as a blessing that you are no longer with her. That can be hard to do, that's for sure, but it will help you get over her and get on with your life.
The problem that comes with seeing it as a sign that you did something wrong or that you were the one to blame for her infidelity is that it ends up being a situation where you blame yourself and you don't see reality for what it really is. Sure, you might not have been a perfect boyfriend, but that doesn't mean that she had the right to go out and end up in bed with another guy.
WHERE DO YOU GO FROM HERE?
One of the harder things to figure out once you have found out that your ex girlfriend cheated on you is figuring out where you go from here. If you still think about your ex girlfriend a lot and you still feel like you have feelings for her, you might start to get the idea that getting back with her and forgiving her for what she did might be the right thing to do. If that is the conclusion that you come to, you might want to take some time out before you take any action. You may find that your feelings begin to change as time goes on and you realize that if she cheated on you once, she could end up doing it again and again.
FINDING SOMEONE ELSE -
Being able to move on and find someone else if you found out that your ex girlfriend cheated on you is probably the best thing that you can do. Going back to a woman who cheated on you is only going to make it seem like it was "okay" for her to do what she did. So, really the best thing that you can do is to find a way to get over her, get over the fact that she did cheat on you and work on finding someone else that you can be with. It may take some time, but you will probably find that when you do find another woman, you'll be glad that you and your ex girlfriend who cheated on you are no longer together. Take it as a lesson learned and move on.
