subject: How To Know Your Boyfriend's Needs And Save Your Relationship [print this page] Men can be as unpredictable as womenMen can be as unpredictable as women. We are familiar with people saying that women are difficult to understand but so are men. You can now stop those frustrating moments where you need to guess your boyfriend's thoughts by discovering his needs and dislikes.
According to relationship analyst Shaunti Feldhahn, one's perception of love depends on gender. Women look for love, while men look for respect. That is why you probably find inner qualities like humor, thoughtfulness and self-confidence important in men.
Here are some latest well-researched truths from Shaunti:
1. 74% of the men would give up love if women do not respect them
2. Although men look confident on the outside, they actually have many self-doubts and struggle with esteem issues
3. 86% of men said they sometimes do not share their inner feelings with the women they know because they want to protect themselves from getting hurt
4. 68% of men say they do not trust women to handle their feelings with care
Although you cannot always read your partner's mind, knowing his natural thought processes will make a big difference in your relationship with him. Respect and trust are important to men because they tend to make important decisions.
So what could you do to save your relationship?
1. Be more careful when you speak to or tease your partner from now on, since respect to him is such a major factor in your relationship. You need to change your approach when talking to him. I don't mean that from now on you should not joke with him, but you just need to be a little more careful not to mention anything that might hurt his self-esteem or say things which sound disrespectful to him.
2. You should try to put yourself into your boyfriend's shoes. If both of you are quarreling, you just need to put yourself in his shoes and understand his mentality. You know your partner best and should deal with quarrel reasonably instead of challenging him. When you let your man know that you are giving him the respect that he wants, he will return the same to you.
3. Spend some quiet time with your boyfriend. You can start the ball rolling by approaching your partner directly and talking to him. Let your partner know that it is fine for him to share his problems with you. Men usually won't tell women their troubles. Your partner will appreciate you for creating a comfortable environment for him to express his inner feelings.
Think from the men's point of view, keeping in mind what your partner needs and you will be able to save your relationship.
