subject: Cultivate The Right Mental Attitude To Save Your Relationship [print this page] Are you crying a lot and missing your ex with an aching and broken heart? Are you reliving the harsh words, the arguments and the recriminations so that you can't think of anything else? Are you of two minds? Are you grieving for the end of your relationship?
On the one hand you want to drive them out of your mind, take revenge on them and proceed to better things, while on the other hand you want to do anything it takes to save your relationship and to get your ex back. All of this turmoil is quite normal after your relationship breakdown. So now it is the time to take a deep breath, calm yourself and realize that it is up to you what is going to happen next.
Here are a few tips you can use to take control of your relationship.
1) Accept the reality. OK you have been rejected, but that doesn't mean you have to accept your ex's evaluation of you. Wake up and smell the coffee and stop with the denial. It not only could happen to you it has happened so do you want to get back with your ex or not?
A word of warning here. If there was any verbal or actual violence involved, forget your ex and move on. End of story!
2) Do not do blame. It is definitely no one's fault, least of all yours. There is nothing especially wrong with you. Relationships do come and go everyday. It is part and parcel of life's rich pattern.
A more important question than who was more at fault than whom is what did you learn from this experience? If you want to save your relationship, what will you do differently? Or what will you take forward for yourself and your next soul mate?
3) It's make-your-mind-up time. What does your heart tell you? Is your ex worth the effort to save your relationship or are you going to move on?
So now is the moment to decide. If you want to save your relationship, change your current lifestyle to rebuild a much better relationship. Write down your personal mantra and go for it right now.
Recovering from a broken relationship is all about changing your state of mind to a positive mental attitude that will save your relationship or save you for the next better relationship.
