subject: How To Get A Girlfriend If You Happen To Be Shy - 3 Tips To Work Around That Shyness [print this page] As someone who remembers what it was like to feel shy around women, I know that one of the most useless tips or bits of advice that you will receive is to just stop being shy. It's funny that people will actually say that, as if that is all you have to do and as if you didn't already realize that your shyness is one of the obstacles that you have to overcome. I am not going to give you any advice like that, because you really can't take action on that. It's kind of akin to telling someone who is having financial problems that they should just go and make more money. Doesn't really solve much of anything, does it?
Here are 3 tips on how to get a girlfriend if you happen to be shy that WILL help you work around that instead of just telling you to stop being shy:
1. Use friends as much as possible to introduce you to women that they know whom you might click with.
One of the hardest things to do if you are reluctant to approach women is to actually meet women whom you might be able to have a relationship with. A workaround for this is to have people that you know introduce you to women that they know. That way, you don't have to do any cold approaches and you will be able to have a better chance of matching up personality wise, because your friends will know what you are like and will have some idea of what kind of woman might be suitable for you. They can also do a little bit of "talking you up" to that woman, so that can help as well.
2. Try to meet women in environments that are not as intimidating to you.
For a lot of guys, the idea of walking into a dark and noisy night club and then approaching the best looking women that they lay eyes on is just something that they are always going to be intimidated by. If you are the kind of guy who gets put off by those kinds of situations, a simple workaround is to instead go to places that are not nearly as noisy and busy. You might find that approaching a woman in a much quieter setting doesn't have the same feel to you, and you might actually do quite well in those kinds of situations.
3. Use work as a place to meet women if you can.
There's nothing wrong with leveraging the time you spend at work as a way to meet women, and if you work in an environment where you feel comfortable and confident and you do come into contact with single women on a regular basis, that might be something that you want to try. For example, a friend of mine is shy in a lot of situations, but he works in sales and in that environment, he feels really confident. He also meets a lot of women that way.
