subject: 1 Thing That Stops ME From Success and maybe you from success [print this page] 1 Thing That Stops ME From Success + 3 Areas Of My Life It Rules Over the weekend I had some time to reflect on some things that were affecting me in my life. I was sitting on the couch thinking to myself, Whats really stopping me from ultimate success in my life? I know its something deeper than just taking certain actions throughout my day so I began to ponder about this idea. It started on Saturday. I was speaking with my dad about how I was having a challenging time with the fact that my fianc has a little 3 year old, and how Im having to get used to the crying and all the other little things a three year old goes through. My dad instantly started telling me how Im playing a losing game and how he didnt understand why I would date a girl with a kid in the first place. He was saying things that were surely not helping me out or making me feel good about the decision I had made. Long story short, I got off the phone not feeling too good about myself. After a day had passed I was once again around my fiancs child listening to a three year old be a three old. I started to think about what my dad had told me. I was looking for something deeper though. I began to ponder deeper into this idea. I soon realized something I think may be holding me back in my entire life. I realized first of all that the way I felt had nothing to do with my fianc or her child, but it actually had everything to do with me wanting approval from my dad. I was feeling bad about myself because I couldnt understand why I couldnt just have the support from my father My dads a great guy, Im not saying hes bad for saying this. I realized though that in reality it was me that choose to feel the way I felt after my dad made those comments. If I didnt care what he thought or if I didnt attempt to seek his approval, I would have never allowed his idea or thoughts to affect the way I felt. As I began to dig deeper into this concept of seeking approval I realized that this same theory was affecting other areas in my life - both with my relationships and with my business. I realized that I have been holding back on what Im really capable of in my life and in relationships because there are things I have not done and also that I have not allowed myself to completely be me. Why? Because I was afraid of what someone else would think of me or what they would say. I realized that Ive not done certain thing in business because of my insecurity or wanting approval. I also realized there were little things in my relationships that were affecting me from completely opening up and being me. Now that Ive realized whats really holding me back its just a matter of learning how to deal with it and overcome this condition that I have set in my consciousness of wanting approval from others. I feel the first step to overcoming insecurities and approval issues is to address them upfront when you become aware of them. I had heard at one time to flaunt insecurities and to actually joke about them to yourself because it will change the way you think about them. So this is simple when it comes time for me holding back or feeling a certain way because Im wanting approval or caring about what someone else thinks. I just need to flaunt it by just telling myself or even telling the other person whats going on in my head and do it any way. So the lesson here is to learn whats stopping you from the best life you can possibly have and make corrections. For me its caring too much about what someone else may think of me or wanting approval from someone else that holds me back from so much in my life. I hope by me sharing this personal information to the world it helps you to open up and find ways that are deeper than you actually thought that are holding you back in your life. Success is deeper than the outer game. If youre not right with you being you any type of success is tough to come by.
1 Thing That Stops ME From Success and maybe you from success
