subject: Men And Their Attitude To Children. [print this page] Maternal Instinct and Men - Is That Possible?
Paternal instinct... Does ir lreally exists? The questions is still once and for all unresolverd. But maybe you'll find out the answer after having read the article through.
Many evidences of paternal instinct can be found in wildlife. For example male penguins hatch the nestlings. Of course men too should have paternal instinct pt in them by nature.
You cannot say that men love children less, because they express their love not like women. They are exacting to their children and punish them for bad deeds at times.
In womens mind the program of maternity starts to work from the moment of birth, but men have to mature to it. It's easy to understand why men don't feel themselves fathers for a long time - they just afraid of the children.
It's easy to understand what psychologists claim on the matter: men just afraid to injure their children, that's why they don't look after them. To some woman it may sound like an excuse, but is it really so?
Many factors have influence on paternal instinct. For example if playing with dolls was forbidden in boys childhood, hell think that to do something like this is a shame for man, yet exactly such children games form those skills in boys, which may help them to communicate with their own children in adult life.
Self-dependence - it is also something we must take into account. If a boy was always nursed by parents or somebody else he may hate his own children because he has to share love and care which beloged to him.
Almost all many behave the way their fathers behaved when they were children. For example if a father had rough manners, his son will shift type of behavior on his children.
The psychologists claim that every second man wants to become a father but fears it. Some of them don't wan to take the responsibility. Some other men are afraid of being bad fathers. Don't think that such fears are bad, look at it from another angle - they speak of serious intentions of men.
